De-escalated: now it's your responsibility to take care of yourself

So is everything finally over? End of the quarantine or de-escalation in phases, they invite us to the street, they open restaurants... Is it safe to go out?

It is inevitable that after so many days of confinement we are finding it difficult to normalize the return to reality. Nothing will definitely be the same again, that's for sure, but there is something much more intrinsic that paralyzes us on the spot, and It is the fact that now we have to be responsible for our lives, for our actions and for every step we take.

And perhaps for a moment we think, especially adults, that we were already responsible, because no one was behind us telling us what to do or how to do it; however, adaptation costs. Because it is not the same to be responsible for going out to pay the telephone service bill than to do it taking care of where you put your hands, who you talk to, etc.

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Dealing with uncertainty

Things like the uncertainty of not knowing in which unknown place the ticket that you now have in your hands and having to remember every two by three not to bring them to your face after having manipulated it,

constitute new information that we now have to embed in our brain overnight because it turns out that "we have the order to return to normality."

We have not had time to educate our minds in these new habits, and the truth is that all this shows that we do not know how to take care of ourselves.

All this has ancient biological reasons and it is important to know them in order to know our weaknesses and where they come from; Only in this way can we begin to change the patterns.

The need for self-care

Human beings need care even when we are a little advanced of age. We have a very long childhood, and both men and women should be under someone's care for many years.

When we are adults, two things often happen:

• The man seeks a home with a woman to take care of him, his home and his children.
• The woman is looking for a home and a family to take care of her, just as her mother did.

This generates the reproduction of a pattern in which the man does not learn to take care of himself and the woman, for lack of time because she is busy taking care of others, forgets to take care of herself.

No wonder so many homes today in the wake of this pandemic are on the brink of collapse. Women full of anxiety and fear for the future, with an overload of responsibilities at home, and the man without knowing how to contribute because he never knew how to make a decision without the help of his mother in the first place, and after his his wife.

I do not mean to say that there are no different homes; I am referring to the product of a system whose patriarchal formula has been made clear that it does not work, and all thanks to COVID-19.

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A time when responsibility prevails

The time of dawn has come that we expected, already we can go out on the streets dressed in the costume of the moment: conscience.

We know that we must take care of ourselves in order to take care of those who wait for us at home, and thus keep them safe. The time has come for clichéd phrases such as “only by loving yourself can you love others” stop being clichés and become habits 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Only by loving yourself will you value your health and you will not run away to get into a party or go out without a mask on the street, that is something that no longer you must do, if you want to be healthy you will take care of yourself and consequently your loved ones will also have Health.

Let us remember for a moment that it was our childish carelessness that got us into this situation in the first place, we do not take ourselves into serious self-care and distancing warnings until we began to see that the infected and deceased exceeded the hundred.

Has it ever been so easy to stop the spread of a virus? The only thing we had to do was one thing, take care of ourselves, and we couldn't handle such a responsibility.

Concluding

You and I, like everyone who has read this article, we know that those who bear the greatest responsibility are not going to take care of us, if not, they will not take care of us. would send to the street to normalize a flu knowing that the safest thing is that we fail a second time (without wanting to be pessimistic, only realistic).

So, if it no longer depends on them, that depends on you is your only alternative to maintain your well-being, you are your only hope to stay safe and protect yours.

Wear a mask, always carry gel with you, avoid crowds, do not put your hands to your face under no concept, and please comply with the new rules of coexistence, although I would call them survival.

And if in any way it is difficult for you to adapt to these new habits or you feel that it has affected your behavior, thoughts or emotions, to you or one of your loved ones, I am going to suggest that you get in contact with me or that you visit my page to find more articles on the subject. I hope I've helped.