Why do I hate everyone? Causes and possible solutions

Misanthropy, or hatred of all people in general, it can come in many ways. However, it always has to do with past experiences; no one is predestined to get along with humanity.

Knowing this is very important because, like "I hate everyone" appears in an acquired form By learning and interpreting what is happening to us, it is also possible to unlearn it, to reconcile with others.

And why would a misanthrope want to change? Well, of course not everyone has to want that, but those who have entered this article by the title is very At the very least, they may be curious about the psychological mechanisms that explain this phenomenon and how they can be reverse.

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When others are systematically put down

There are people who, by default, look down on others or they just abhor company. This can paradoxically make them feel lonely and misunderstood and, in addition, they notice that this affects them in their professional, student or civil life in general.

That is why quite possibly there are many who are considering how to get out of that vicious circle of hatred.

The causes

Hatred of others can be understood as a form of learned helplessness. This concept serves to designate cases in which it has been learned to dissociate what is done with what is obtained in a negative sense, that is, it has come to be assumed that, whatever is done, nothing good will be obtained from it.

In this case, what does not produce any benefit (or that produces more inconvenience and discomfort than pleasant experiences) is social life, in general. From past experiences, it has been assumed that everyone betrays, lies, or tries to take advantage of others.

In other words, others are assumed to have corrupt moralityor that they are incompetent and that this is part of the majority essence of people, and this makes oneself stop looking joyful and stimulating experiences with others and, in many cases, tend to live in a relative isolation.

How to stop hating and reconcile with the rest

There are ways to turn things around and stop systematically hating those around us.

In cases of misanthropy based on serious trauma, it is very possible that it is necessary to go to psychotherapy, but in more moderate cases in which it is noted that the relationship with a large number of acquaintances is unusually bad, you can choose to change your life philosophy on your own.

Some points to start with are:

1. Think in the context of your memories

Imagine the memories that you think most influence your perception of others and analyzes in context in which they occurred. A long time ago? Was everyone else to blame? They were really cruel, or is this idea born from the exaggerations that appeared after it happened?

2. Make lists of positive traits

Use your imagination and think of positive characteristics of those who you dislike or hate, no matter how strange they may seem to you, but what do you think is true.

3. Reflect on how you judge others

Stop and think about your way of attributing negative characteristics to others. You do having all the necessary information about them? Do you take into account the context and social norms that you also follow when you interact with others?

4. Analyze your expectations

What basic characteristics do you think someone should have for you to like their company and affection? Are they reasonable, or are they too many and too precise?

5. Think from the point of view of someone good who would like to meet you

Imagine that you are a person who meets the basic characteristics that someone should meet (in theory) for you to feel good next to her. Would you be able to recognize her if you acted as you always do when meeting someone new?

6. Get out more and connect with like-minded people

Self-oblige yourself to relate more to others, get out of your comfort zone. Set specific social goals for yourself (like going to a dinner you've been invited to) and stick to them to the letter, make it a priority. If you start dealing with people with whom you share likes Regardless of their personality, it is easier for you to connect with some of them. Later you can propose to expand your social horizons.

7. Surround yourself with happy people

Find people who are genuinely cheerful and spend time with them. In this way you will associate the company of others with moments of humor and having a good time and you will have more desire to repeat the experience, with which it will be more difficult for you to assume that you will always be hating others.