What is guilt and how to alleviate its effects?

There are many of us who were raised under this punishing emotional belief system., being conditioned from an early age to feel emotionally bad under certain conditions.

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What is guilt and how do we inoculate it?

When someone gives us a message in order to make us feel "bad people", for having done or said something "inappropriate", we immediately respond with a feeling of discomfort and punishment.

This is mainly because our mind responds automatically based on what it learned during childhood.

Some of the psychological guilt systems that we use in our lives are the following.

1. Residual guilt

Residual guilt is that learned during our childhood, since parents often use it daily to manipulate us with reproaches such as: "I will not love you if you do that again" or "You should feel ashamed of that attitude." These phrases can echo in our adult self in figures such as bosses or parental images, it can also be evidenced in our relationships, where reproaches from the past come to light. This feeling of guilt is reflected in our persistent attempt to get these figures approved.

2. Self-imposed guilt

Self-imposed guilt is not necessarily connected to our childhood. Here people feel immobilized by issues experienced during adulthood, self imposing guilt caused by not following "adult behavior" or the "moral code adult". The person may have a bad mood for a long time, even though the pain of guilt cannot do anything to change the situation. These are reflected in our discussions with someone, or when performing a behavior contrary to that of others.

Examining the concern

Remember that worry is a feeling that immobilizes you in the present for something that has not yet happened And as its word pre (before) occupation says, it means before some occupation, so we must focus our attitude on dealing with adversity rather than worrying. It is important not to make plans wrong by falling into thoughts of afraid Y anxiety.

Again it all starts with the erroneous idea that worry is closely related to love and importance to others, this can be evidenced in phrases such as: "I worry because I love you" or "You must worry about your future". But worry has nothing to do with love and importance, since this emotion only causes anxiety and suffering in our life.

Releasing our negative emotions

To leave negative emotions such as guilt and worry, we must commit ourselves to living our present moment. Learning to live in the now helps us not to waste our moments with neurotic thoughts and to be able to see life in a more constructive and rational way.

Now that you have a better understanding of the psychological system behind these negative emotions, you will be able to to work better with your emotions towards a personal development that is less manipulable and more committed to your own happiness.