How to eliminate negative emotions from our mind

If you think guilt or worry has a positive contribution to your life, it means that you have a distorted perception of reality.

Emotions like guilt and worry are more and more prevalent in today's society. It is increasingly common to observe stressed people who "sink into a glass of water", for situations that perhaps, in the prism of others, are not so serious.

What are negative emotions?

The destructive power of negative emotions it is mainly due to the influence they had on our childhood. We learned from a young age, during the development of our first and second childhood, that if we did not feel bad about some mistake committed or we did not care enough about the future we would not be able to correct some attitude or solve some trouble.

Since we were kids they taught us these types of negative emotions in order to instruct our behavior and correct certain types of behaviors. This problem is expressed mainly in our mature stage, since both guilt and worry can be emotions that are really harmful to our emotional well-being, as 

expose ourselves to manipulations and by falling into self-punishing behaviors.

Why guilt and worry are negative emotions

The problem of guilt and worry is mainly that we waste all our present moments by punishing ourselves for things that already happened or that we want to happen in the future. Because of this type of negative thinking, our capacity for enjoyment and connection with life is seriously impaired.

Although both emotions are theoretically intended to help us correct behaviors or find possible solutions to problems, both also fulfill a useless purpose in our life, since they only manage to keep us immobilized before a adversity. This type of "immobilization" can be observed both in guilty behaviors and in feelings of anxiety or fear before a possible event.

Guilt can serve as retribution in itself and as permission to repeat the same behavior -Osho

A society that leads us to constant concern

Today's society is full of people who feel bad about something they shouldn't have done, or they are stressed for things that could happen.

With guilt in tow, they are overwhelmed by some attitude from the past. while with worry they feel anxious about things that have not yet happened and that, to make matters worse, are likely never to happen.

Most likely, you, dear reader, find yourself in this same situation on some occasions. If you frequently feel trapped by any of these emotions, it is necessary to work with them in order to start building the future by leaving these negative and paralyzing emotions on the sidelines.

How to eliminate the feeling of guilt

Starting to see the past as something that cannot be changed, no matter how you feel about it, is essential to eliminate these types of negative emotions. You can use phrases like: "My feeling of guilt is not going to change or improve anything that happened." that no feeling that implies punishing you will be able to achieve any positive change in your attitude or in your life current.

If you want a significant change in the way you respond to blaming manipulations of your thinking, Start by incorporating the following guilt-releasing strategies into your life.

1. Accept your behavior without punishing yourself for it

Live fully in the present moment and then look for some constructive solution. Choosing to feel guilty and punish yourself for what happened will not solve anything, nor will it ensure that your behavior will change. In the best of cases, you will get a "patch" solution that will wear off in no time.

2. Set yourself suitable times to take care of your affairs and obligations

Ask yourself what it is that you have been avoiding, reflect on whether your feeling of guilt is produced by avoiding some situation or some responsibility, and take care of it!

3. Assert your position of not self-punishing yourself

If any individual has a position contrary to yours and tries to manipulate you through guilt, start by respecting your position of not opting for useless feelings that imply self-punishment and reflect constructively on whether your attitude is purposeful or just hurting you.

4. Start by accepting things about yourself that others may not like.

Remember that it is impossible to satisfy everyone, your behavior does not have to be classified as bad or good according to the opinion of the rest. Make your happiness and harmony a priority before external acceptance.

5. Take note of all the situations that make you feel guilty

You can write down the why, when and who of the situation, and then analyze and determine if you really should make a change in your attitude.

How to eliminate worry

To eliminate worry, start by changing your perception of the future.. Stop perceiving it as something that you should be aware of all the time, so you will get away from obsessive thoughts that only bring you anxiety and fear.

You can use phrases like: "Only what I do in the present can determine my future." If you apply this maxim, you will see that it is absurd to worry about things that have not yet happened, especially if they deprive us of living in the present moment.

Allow yourself to use the following strategies to release your worried feelings and begin to take care of your life.

• Start by taking care of the problem when you feel the need to worry about a situation: the best antidote to heal worry is action.
• Recognize how incoherent it is to worry about things that haven't happened yetFrequently ask yourself the question: Will the fact that I am worried make a difference? Despite what may happen, will I be able to continue doing valuable things for myself and others?
• Allow yourself shorter and shorter periods to feel worried: We can start doing three 10-minute sessions a day to feel worried. It should be remembered that we must do everything possible to feel concern only at set times.
• Make a list of all your concerns from yesterday, last week, or the year beforer: You can check this list to convince yourself that your worries were often not so serious, since in spite of everything you are still alive today. Notice how in each situation it was the occupation that managed to build a solution, while the worry had no positive effect.

Why did they teach us these negative emotions?

The main reason we were taught negative emotions such as guilt or worry is largely due to our cultural values, since it is considered as something "inappropriate" not to feel bad and not to punish ourselves for our problems.

All this cultural legacy is related to the importance we give to our problems, since our culture teaches us that, if we really care about a person or some In particular, we must show our interest by feeling guilty for a "bad" attitude we have had, or by expressing our concern to show our affection.

It is as if they taught us that exposing our emotional pain and discomfort was a fundamental requirement to show affection and importance towards others.