Emotional blocks: what are they and how to overcome them?

The emotional block it is a psychological barrier that we impose on ourselves and that prevents us from being able to discern clearly in some aspects of life.

Everyone, at some point in our life, will notice this type of psychological blockage. When they do occur, our feeling is one of total loss of control over the situation and over ourselves. We remain paralyzed, with no response to the context we are living in. Our emotions they kidnap us and do not let us advance. In today's article We will try to discover what are the causes, symptoms and keys to understand this phenomenon.

Discovering and managing emotional blocks

Also, emotional blocks They have the ability to make it difficult for us to advance when it comes to achieving certain goals in our life. We may be able to develop our life normally, however, at some point in life we ​​may suffer a blockage. Some people, for example, are highly skilled in the workplace and yet in the moment of establishing stable romantic relationships, they get stuck and fail to develop as they wish.

Thus, others can function adequately in the sentimental field and just the opposite happens in the workplace: they cannot find a job that satisfies them. Or apparently everything is going well for them in the office, but they do not make themselves known as they really are by unsafety. This makes them show a mask to others in order to feel more secure, thus preventing them from being themselves, as if they were somehow emotionally corseted.

Some examples of emotional blockage

There are several signs and signals that can warn us that someone is suffering from an emotional blockage.

For example, not wanting to act out of fear of failure, not participating in events, being afraid of looking bad, dreading being rejected or not being accepted, shyness or embarrassment, lack of motivation, pessimism and inability to see solutions to an obstacle, envy, jealousy, superficially judge others without daring to go deeper and understand what they are like.

Frequent causes

Fear and insecurity, and also feeling inferior to the rest, are the most frequent causes of emotional blockage. At the moment, the economic and social situation predisposes us to a greater extent to suffer this type of blockage.

This is because the collective perception of the negative reality that surrounds us influences us. unconsciously as individuals that we are part of a whole, so that we could be talking about what there is a negative social atmosphere, in which certain values ​​such as competitiveness and pragmatism prevail. These values ​​can collide with the need we all have to feel included, loved and supported in the social group. In other words, when we do not find a social group where we feel represented and identified, we tend to suffer identity crises that can lead us to feelings of low self-confidence.

How can we remove the emotional block?

If our emotions are positive, joy, creativity, motivation and spontaneity arise. For example, suppose we have been unemployed for quite some time, that we are summoned for interviews, and that we always get the same negative response. This can cause us to believe that even scrolling is no longer worth the effort. Thus, without realizing it, we ourselves mentally predispose ourselves to emotional blockages preventing us from finding a solution to such a situation. It is a vicious cycle from which it is difficult to escape.

In the same way, in our day to day thoughts of futility and uneasiness come to us, such as: “why am I going to go ???”, “I know they are not going to hire me ”,“ there are more qualified candidates ”,“ they will notice that I am nervous ”,“ with the time that I have been unemployed and the age that I am ”, I am no longer suitable”, "I will fail."

Fighting negative thinking

This type of pessimistic thinking blocks us in such a way that later, at the time of the interview, what we transmit non-verbally it is unconsciously perceived by the interviewer. And if what you transmit is negativity... we are not going to be a very desirable candidate.

If you are not convincing with yourself, you constantly hesitate, you think you have no chance, etc., you are doomed to always remain in this situation of immobility. To remove the blockage, we must acquire a positive perspective of reality, so that if you feel good emotionally there will be no blockages and you will be able to express yourself more fluently. Try to think about things that bring out positive emotions.

Even if you are initially uneasy, try to think positively, for example: “I am a very valid ”,“ I believe in myself ”,“ if they do not choose me I will have learned from this experience for the next interview"... This way you will be predisposing your brain to create new structures that naturally guide your thoughtsIn such a way that what we mentally believe is transmitted in the image we give of ourselves.

Dismantling Murphy's Law: bad luck does not exist

The "Murphy's Law" states the following: "If something can go wrong, it will go wrong", in such a way that, if the toast always falls on the butter side on the ground, it is because we certainly have bad lucky. The same thing happens if we extrapolate it with the emotional blockage, for example when we think: "They never catch me, I'm sure the same thing will happen in this interview."

Nothing could be further from the truth. Murphy's Law, the only thing that simply comes to say is that: "if something can happen, it will happen." If we really feel empowered to make something happen, the chances of it happening will increase astonishingly.

Reflecting on the locks

There is a theory in quantum physics, called "Schrödinger's cat." This suggests that, at the level of particle physics, a cat inside a box with a poison capsule that can break at any moment will be alive and dead at the same time. This also applies to emotional blockage, If fear grips us, we will never be able to find out if we had achieved what we had in mind. So if we don't have the courage to open the box, we will remain locked.

When we truly believe we are capable and confident of ourselves, we transmit an aura of confidence that others, even without being conscious, perceive intuitively. Often something attracts us to another person and it is possible that it is that confidence in ourselves, in such a way So you must watch your thoughts and not let negative thoughts prevent you from progressing.

Bibliographic references:

• Cortés de Aragón, L. (1999). Self-esteem. Comprehension and Practice. Saint Paul.
• Mc Clelland, D and Atkinson J. (1985). Motivation and Emotion. Mc Graw Hill.