How to manage the bad grades of our children?

For boys and girls, the experience of going to school is much more than a way of learning syllabi; it constitutes one of the most important aspects of the lives of the youngest. In both childhood and adolescence, school is a crucial quantitative space (they spend in her a long time) and qualitatively (in her they learn to socialize and to know the world in which they live).

But it is clear that there are ways to take advantage of more or less the passage of the little ones through school, and in this In this sense, school grades are one of the best indicators to know if a student performs adequately in their studies. However… What to do, as parents, in the face of poor grades from our children? Throughout this article you will find several recommendations to take into account.

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5 tips on what to do if your child gets bad grades

Faced with academic performance problems in boys and girls, it is important that parents adapt their parenting style to each particular case

: there are no easy solutions that work in the same way in all cases, and it is always essential to know the characteristics of the minor and the context in which he or she lives.

For this reason, it is sometimes very difficult to know what “fails” and what gives rise to bad grades, and in fact, in most cases there is not a single cause, but several that interact with each other. And, in the most severe cases, it becomes necessary to resort to psychologists trained in child-adolescent intervention.

However, there are times when it is possible to help the little one by slightly modifying the educational and parenting strategies from home, in combination with good communication with the center school. That is why below we will review several tips on how to manage the bad grades of our children from our role as fathers and mothers.

1. Talk to your son or daughter not to lecture, but to listen

It is very important to know their point of view on why you are getting poor grades. It is not a question of simply accepting your version, but of knowing that information, because it is valuable and helps to understand the motivations and incentives (or lack thereof) that you associate with achieving good results academics.

You must approach this dialogue from the assertiveness, showing that you respect their point of view but making it clear that, a priori, their low marks are a problem to be solved (we will see exceptions to this later).

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2. Talk to the school

It is also essential that you talk to the tutor in your class to find out more about what is happening; if there is, also talk to the school psychologist or the psychopedagogy team.

In this way you will know aspects that can partly explain their bad grades and, in general, their way of living school. And in the event that there are signs of a learning or neurodevelopmental disorder such as ADHD, you will also know it.

If these kinds of circumstances occur, it is important to diagnose the problem as soon as possible by going to the psychologist, and if it is confirmed that there is a disorder, you can re-adjust the expectations of the grades that your son or daughter should be getting, in addition to taking the necessary measures to adapt the School Education.

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3. Help him schedule his study times

Create a schedule that incorporates daily study and / or homework sessions, and post it in a conspicuous place around the house. This will act as a constant reminder that these daily minutes are part of your daily life, of the structure of the days of the week. And also, that way you will know if he is skipping those sessions or not.

Yes indeed, these hours should allow you free time: It is important that you can disconnect and socialize beyond your school obligations.

4. Teach him to summarize

Teaching you to summarize your notes well can take several days, but in the medium and long term, it pays off. Not only will it help you to have better materials to study with, but it will also help you summarizing activity will make it easier for you to understand what you read, by selecting important ideas and connecting them with each other.

5. Provide incentives for good grades

Many parents make the mistake of simply scolding their children for poor grades, making the little ones see school as a source of problems, something that can only detract from their well-being.

Actually, it is much better to reward your son or daughter every time they get good grades. This does not have to imply giving you material rewards; they can be symbolic adapted to their age and achievement, such as a figure or a medal, or a celebration. The idea is that you feel good about what you have achieved, that you take pride in your progress.

Are you looking for psychological assistance services for children and adolescents?

The upbringing and education of children of infant and adolescent age is a complicated task that, in many cases, is difficult for parents. Fortunately, some psychology centers offer both family support services and child and adolescent psychotherapy.

Therefore, if you are interested in having professional psychological assistance in the face of these kinds of problems and needs, get in touch with us. On Cribecca Psychology We can help you either in our center located in Seville or through the modality of online therapy by video call.