How to close life cycles and not die trying?

Stage closures are tough and sometimes it is hard for us to say no, either when ending a relationship, when close a work stage of our life or when ending a friendship relationship that is running out.

When we speak of cycles we refer to the processes of life that have a beginning and an end. In this sense, it is important to know how to close the cycles when a process has finished; but there is a problem when trying, and it is the emotional component of all this. This makes us human and makes us feel, but for that reason we cannot think that we will not be able to turn the page.

For this, it is essential to know that closing and healing emotions is painful, which makes it something we want at certain times. avoid so as not to face it, but standing up to our emotions will help us learn not to send us those stimuli negatives.

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The 5 proposals to close a cycle

The first thing to do is know the difference between closing cycles and losing something

. Closing chapters in your life always brings pain, obviously, but luckily this is never sudden or extremely painful as loss is. On the contrary it happens with the loss; This is not given voluntarily and brings pain because it is often misunderstood; before her, we feel tremendously unhappy and think that we do not deserve it.

Taking the above into account, let's look at several key ideas to know how to close a cycle of your life.

1. Start a process of psychological therapy

It is a good opportunity for self-knowledge work. Here we can see what our weak points are and work them hand in hand with the therapist to be stronger emotionally and, above all, not to fall into the same mistakes again. It is important to follow the criteria of the specialist and above all to maintain confidence in him.

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2. Say goodbye and create a balance

You decide to finish the stage, and it is important that you start to think about what it gave you and the mistakes you made so as not to repeat them. Tip: make a list or a letter with conclusions that you send to yourself about the good and bad times that you lived, that will make you grow.

3. Start new hobbies

It is important that you continue to rediscover that inner Self to know that you have things inside you that you have not found yet. It is also a good opportunity for you to resume hobbies that you abandoned, do not close yourself.

4. Forgive yourself

Here I want you to accept yourself and to be able to tell you that what you experienced was positive, and above all that now you are stronger to start new stages. It is important not to think that if what we lived before ended badly, it was because of us (maybe it did); Right now what you have to do is accept that right now it is impossible to change the past and all you have is the present.

5. Forget finding a magic answer

Stop trying to see a master answer to your problems, really. There is no answer to everything And that a problem comes to you does not mean that you have to solve it as if it were a mathematical problem; Thought works by analogy, and it is normal to hold memories. Please don't beat yourself up.

A final thought

Sometimes we hold onto pain and use it as an excuse not to move forward, focusing on thoughts from the past that we think were better and especially with the idea that something negative will happen to us again, but it is not. Closing a stage means ending something to improve and that is what we must focus on.

I want you to draw conclusions, and above all think if in other moments of your life you have taken a long time in getting to overcome these problems, and especially if it is worth facing them again your only to.

Obviously there are different types of cycles that we want to close (remember the beginning) that will appear in your life; before them, above all we have to understand that some will be easier to close than others, and that for that reason sometimes we may need a specialist to help us.

Need help?

Perhaps you need a push to overcome and settle negative thoughts about the closure of a stage for personal reasons or loss. That is why I want to offer you my help and experience so that you do not waste time and be as efficient as possible. Do not hesitate to contact me to start your online therapy.