5 steps to fulfill your New Year's resolutions once and for all

52% of people who set year resolutions think they will achieve their goals, but the reality is that 88% of people set goals. Why do we set goals if we already know in advance that we are not going to meet them?

However, there is no better time like the beginning of a new year to take control of your life; to organize that home office once and for all, to start those hobbies with which you have always dreamed, to stop procrastinating and work to progress in your career or grow your deal.

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How to deal with New Year's resolutions?

Before we dive into 2021 with our goals and plans, I would like us to reflect on what we have achieved so far; because let's face it, ** 2020 has been a difficult but inspiring year! **

Not only did we miss the mass events, those well-needed vacations, or even those post-work drinks, but it has also impacted in the day-to-day running of companies and, in turn, and most importantly, people have really suffered financially, mentally and emotionally. Some of us have even had to change the way we do business to accommodate this "new way of life."

To help you make 2021 your best year, I share these 5 suggestions.

1. Understand why past resolutions haven't worked for you

Most people set their year resolutions from a state of fear., which is already a wrong start. That inner voice tells us that we are not capable enough, and it is what "forces" us to propose new goals. New goals that we think we must do to be better. To have the acceptance of others, to fit into society.

This is the biggest reason why year resolutions don't work. This way of establishing them, from fear and not from motivation, makes us sabotage ourselves even before you have tried it.

The best way to set goals is by being clear about how we want to feel. What do we want to be? How we want to be. Once you visualize and experience those feelings, it is much easier to set the goals you want to achieve in order to feel that way.

When you hold on to a specific goal you can get stuck. However, when you start thinking about how you want to feel, you will see the different alternatives you have to reach that desired goal. It's about visualizing what you want to achieve instead of running away from something you don't want.

I encourage you this year, write your list and ask yourself the following questions:

• What do I want this goal for?
• What is it going to make me feel?
• What is it going to help me feel?
• What if I didn't care what people thought, would it still be my goal?

When you are clear about how you want to feel, and you have goals that you want to achieve and not that others have imposed on you directly or indirectly, your mind starts up.

2. Keep a journal

We often overlook our accomplishments without taking a moment to acknowledge or celebrate them. Therefore, before setting goals for the coming year, I encourage you to look back and celebrate at least five things you have done that you are very proud of. Big or small, an achievement must be recognized.

Find a piece of paper, the notebook you have for your personal development or "notes" on your phone, and write down those five things, because you will look at this again after the madness of the holiday season, and you will realize how far you've arrived. I like to call it the Epic List, as it celebrates how epic you are!

Before embarking on new goals, it is important to look back to celebrate what we have achieved and also to recognize what has not worked so well in order to improve it.

Before you start with your resolutions for the year, ask yourself these questions:

• What are you proud to have accomplished in the last year?
• What has not gone so well and would you like to improve in the next year?

One exercise I like to do with clients is to get them to write a letter to themselves like it's New Year's Eve in 2021 and write about how well their year has gone. I encourage you to. If you made your version, what would you write?

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3. Track your goals

Hands up: who hasn't happened to? We started the New Year with such a clear focus and intention, only to have our plans derailed by the end of the month., And how demotivating is that?

The key to staying focused on your goals is to get motivated, write them down, review them regularly, and take action. Because the objectives or goals are dreams with a date.

In order for your goals to be met, you have to have a long-term vision of your final destination, but then you have to set short-term goals. Annual, quarterly, monthly, weekly and daily goals. Yes, newspapers. Those little steps, which we call habits, that each day bring you one step closer to your final goal.

This is why most year resolutions don't work. Because we set very big goals and we don't divide them into small achievable goals. By dividing them into small objectives, and carrying them out, you will motivate yourself to achieve them. And that motivation will lead you to achieve the following. And so on until you reach your final destination. Simple, but we rarely do it.

At the end of each day, each week, each month and each quarter, review the period to celebrate your achievements and to "touch up" those things that have not gone so well, and change them for the next period.

Writing down your goals increases your chances of achieving them by up to 70%. Why not grab a fancy goal planner where you can jot down your notes and refer back to them? When you reach those goals and mark them, the feeling is euphoric!

4. Get liability partners!

They say we're the same as the five people we surround ourselves with. And that is why it is so important to get together with an accountability partner.

An accountability partner can keep you on track and help you meet those commitments. because doing it just makes it easier to throw in the towel and let those awesome goals fall for you road.

5. Celebrates

Set a reward for reaching your goals. You have to have an incentive to stay focused on your goals and know how to pat yourself on the back. It helps you stay focused and motivated.

One of the most important elements in achieving your goals is maintaining a positive mindset and believing that achieving your goals is possible every day. Hold onto that belief, because that's how your mind works: what you believe is what you achieve.

Did you know that your mind does not know the difference between reality and what you say to it? It will just assume that you are only telling the truth with what you say, so write down your goals every day as if they already happened. When your mind believes that you have already achieved that goal, it will give you the little encouragement you need to achieve it! What is incredible?

Make 2021 your best year

Get your 2021 off to a good start and really set your goals for next year, with an accountability partner by your side to cheer you on. Plan what you want to achieve and remember, if you do not plan, you are planning failure. So, set your goals for the month and the year and create tangible steps around how to get there. Every day.

You can find more keys to organization and self-motivation in my book Focus on What's Important - Take Action.