Forgetting is the problem and remembering is the solution

Where were we before we were born? We don't usually remember. It is normal, although there are people (very rare exceptions) who do remember. And they remember that they were in a state of total happiness. This state of happiness is our natural state, in which there is not yet an ego ("I" other than a "you") and, therefore, there is no fear.

Nor do we remember how the first moment we came to life was like, that is, the moment we were born. But we can remember the births of other people (perhaps our children). We all cry, and it is not just because we are using our lungs for the first time, but because of the first time we also move away from that state of total happiness and we know that soon we will begin to forget…

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What do we forget?

In the first 3 years of life we ​​forget, little by little, who we really are. We forget our true identity, which is pure joy and awareness. We will forget that we are all children or expressions of the same Universe-Being. We forget that we are passing through this school (called Earth). We forget that our soul does not have preferences for races or ideologies or sex because for the soul everything is enriching experiences. We forget that we have not come to Earth to be "someone", because we already are. We forget that there is no destination to arrive at, but that the important thing is the journey and the learning. We forget that our true family is not by blood but by heart. We forget that we made certain "pacts" or contracts with other souls and that we are predestined to fulfill them. We forget that magic is in the present moment and not in the past or future. We forget that Love is our essence and the only thing that is really important. We forget that we came to this world with a very clear purpose (a plan) and that we need to experience what it is to walk lost and aimless. We forget that it was necessary to forget in order to remember and experience the joy of recognizing ourselves.

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How do we forget?

We forget by identifying with a thought (called "I" or ego) and believing that "I am not enough" as I am. We mistake our essence for a self that is believed to be imperfect. During the first 7 years we are forming our limited "I" thanks to the work of our parents, family and society. We are programmed with a series of beliefs. For instance:

We believe that we are a body (that we can see in the mirror and recognize for the first time as "my" body when we are approximately one and a half years old). We believe that there are good and bad emotions that define us (for example, if I feel joy I think everything is going well, and if I feel sadness, I think something is wrong with me). We believe that there are better ideas than others (for example, if Barça wins it is better than if Madrid win - and that depends on where you were born). We believe that to be happy you have to achieve certain milestones (for example, have friends, have studies, earn money, find a partner ...).

Ultimately, we believe that we must be what our parents and society expect of us, and nothing more. We must strive to be the best "character" (ego) possible and we do not question that character with whom we have identified. Everyone around us is programmed as oneself and nobody teaches us to question our own identity ("who I am"), until a crisis hits.

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What is a crisis?

Crises occur when our identity is questioned. We panic when our ideas of who we are (and therefore what the meaning of our life has) falter.

The first crisis, however, was at birth, because there we began to forget our essence, our true identity. And as adults clipped our wings for being ourselves, we began to develop a character (ego) that would allow us to survive (adapt) in this society. But that character is based on the afraid and in a lie (because it is not true that we are not enough nor is it true that we are the body or our mind). We are the consciousness that dwells in them. We use the body and the mind as an actor can use the costumes to play a role, but we are neither the mind nor the body.

Our ego (body-mind) is a mask with which we have identified to feel “safe”. Our ego is a character that knows that it is not real, since it only lives on memories (past) or imaginations (future). That ego disappears when you enter to live the here and now, which is the only real thing. That ego then lives in fear of reality.

When we do not live in reality, there is fear. Fear feeds the ego. Fear is the owner of the mind (where the ego resides). But few people realize all this and, although they have eyes, they do not see. Most people live asleep (unaware of who they are here and now, regardless of their beliefs. Most live in fear of being themselves. Most are unable to sit quietly for 5 minutes and look inside. Most live identified with their character (ego) because they believe that it is more "safe" that way.

But that false security will be disrupted when we have a serious illness, or an accident, or a family member or pet dies, or we suffer a breakdown. lovingly or we have to close our company, or astrologically we reach 29-30 years, which is when Saturn reminds us that we must question who are…

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How to take advantage of crises?

To take advantage of a crisis we must first understand what a crisis is. A crisis is an opportunity to remember. Life will bring us "traumatic" situations that are designed to remind us of who we are. Just as a seed shell must be broken in order for the seed to grow, every crisis is an opening beyond our false identity or ego. Every crisis is an opportunity to grow beyond our limits (or comfort zone). Behind any crisis is your essence (soul) encouraging you to go one step beyond your evolution. Everything that happens to us (especially what our ego labels as "negative") has the mission of making us wake up to our true identity (which is Love).

After understanding (and accepting) that deep down the crisis is a good thing (even if our dear “ego doesn't like it), you have to listen to your heart. We must take time to be silent with ourselves, and learn to listen to ourselves. In our heart is our essence whispering to us the next step. Our soul does not always speak with words, but with feelings. Try to feel what your heart asks of you, what you need to learn, let go of and / or incorporate into your life.

Imagine you have magic glasses that can see where the opportunity is. Put them on and tell me what you see. What qualities or virtues does the Life that you develop or strengthen encourages you? Maybe you need to develop patience? Or tolerance? Or be assertive? Look inside and listen to your intuition. And then act. Do what you feel is right.

Step by step we are making the way. Do not look for results, that is, do not get attached to the result. It is about taking a little step first, and having Faith. Trust that, if you keep taking little steps, sooner or later, you will see the external results. Persist and have Faith. And in this process, perhaps you will need to feel accompanied by a professional. Do not rule out leaning on someone who may have gone through the same experience as you and who can guide you to know yourself a little more.

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As a coach I help you remember who you are. I am you without expectations or fear. I am the same essence and the only difference is that perhaps I woke up a little before you from the dream of the ego. Externally we seem different, but within us runs the same intelligence, the same love and the same power. As a coach I do not fix your ego, but I help you to go beyond it and awaken to your true identity. Once you remember who you are, your problems are over, because all problems belong to the ego and not to who you really are.