How should changes in life be faced?

Changes are one of the most relevant aspects in the existence of any human being, and it is clear that as such they deserve to be faced.

Throughout our lives, we often feel the need to break with ourselves; we find in our mind an incessant voice that repeats to us "you need a change", and These words persecute us and urge us repeatedly, as if a commandment will try.

When this happens most of the time we repress this claim within us consciously, and at other times, instead, we realize this voice is actually right and we choose to satisfy your request.

And it is precisely at this point that what the fundamental theme of this article represents begins to take shape: the need for a change in our life, or - better said - what is often colloquially called the moment of starting from scratch.

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What does it mean to start from scratch?

We never really start from scratch, because We have no other option but to take with us the baggage of experiences that we have been developing throughout our days and our years.

Despite this element, which we cannot ignore, of course we can also consider –and consequently carry out- said renewal of our life, either by changing our place of residence because we believe that it has ceased to belong to us, or by cutting a romantic relationship in which we feel trapped, or simply making a global return to our professional career if no longer satisfies us.

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Psychological processes involved

But... How can we deal with these changes? First of all we must approach them with the utmost courage of which we are capable. Logically this is very easy to say and very difficult to do, but it really is basic, because without courage there is no risk and without risk it is difficult for there to be innovation.

Courage, as is evident, is strictly linked to inner strength and self-confidence; These are also fundamental aspects that we must take care of with total dedication when considering a vital change.

This premise does not imply at all that we cannot allow ourselves to doubt or waver in our purpose of change. On the contrary, these doubts and these weaknesses are part of the process and we should not put them aside or ignore them, but rather encompass them and insert them as necessary “ingredients” of our evolution.

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A combination of fear and enthusiasm

Another instinctive emotion, which we cannot avoid along the path of renewal, is the fear, but we are referring to a healthy, constructive fear, never destructive but helpful, beneficial, useful.

It is the fear of what will be behind the corner, the fear of the unknown, as it is usually called. And this peculiar type of fear is usually accompanied by a positive feeling that is what makes it healthy: the enthusiasm.

And what is enthusiasm in this context? It basically translates to extreme curiosity about the future, for what awaits us, for the nearest and most remote tomorrow.

It is this fusion of fear and enthusiasm that is often fueled by our drive for change that we talked about at the beginning of this article.

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If you need it, seek help

In short: do you feel that you need a change in your life but at the same time it scares you? Then do not hesitate to ask for professional support to cope with this ambivalent state of mind; here we will be happy to help you and guide you towards the evolutionary process you wish to undertake.

How can we help you to face this new existential stage? Our contribution will basically begin by offering you the appropriate tools so that you can identify your most real, deepest, most pressing needs and desires.

Once these elements have been identified, we will go on to draw together with you the way forward to achieve the change that you have proposed to implement in your day to day. Once this strategy is outlined, we will focus on delving into the most productive ways to deal with gradually this process, guiding you during the evolution of this evolution and marking with you the steps to continue.

Along this path we will analyze together with you if the routes we have chosen turn out to be the most appropriate or if we need to modify the planned strategy. And at the end of the purpose, we accompany you until you fulfill it, and even while you comply, so that by your side we can optimize it and thus try to guarantee maximum satisfaction personal.

Our work, therefore, is that of accompaniment, guidance and professional support, so that together we can achieve the maximum effectiveness of the vital renewal that you have decided conquer.