Love in the couple: How to relate satisfactorily?

Many times, the world insists that the partner we have be our better half and that this other half "ours" will give meaning to our lives. Big mistake!

For that we have all the Turkish soap operas that will make us cry and suffer the love and heartbreak of their adventures and misadventures. Let's not transform our life into that sorrow, hoping that love will be a savior or a disgrace if it doesn't.

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The myth of the better half

Here is a secret that has become verb for me. We are responsible, yes, responsible, for a single adult, which is our own person. And I say adult because, if we choose to have dependent children, that has been our adult choice.

Therefore, as adults that we are, we must build ourselves thinking about who we are and what we want to do with our life, the one we have today and is in our hands, giving it meaning. honoring her

It is something we must do to be oriented towards a goal that will give meaning to our actions and our healthy living

. But that meaning cannot be given by anyone other than us. When the other is the one who gives meaning to my life, sooner or later they will stop having it and I will wish they were far away.

The encounter with the other will be if (and only if) my life has a meaning. If not, I will have nothing to share or plan with the other in a healthy way, and I will demand a toxic relationship from the other, a reflection of my toxicity.

Today we know that as people we are before a dizzying life with strong demands and changes, which mean that the plans we make today do not always define the person we will be tomorrow. That is why it is essential know each other, know what our strengths and weaknesses are and be able to visualize where we want to go. Give meaning to our life for ourselves. Only then will we feel that we are on the right path. We can always change the nuances, but the color palette will be ours.

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Managing couple relationships

For a couple to function as a team, several considerations must be taken into account.

Starting and ending the day together is something very important. It does not imply being physically in the same place, but it does mean greeting each other every morning and going to sleep without being in a dispute, making peace beforehand if that is the case. Being able to speak if a disagreement has arisen is essential and forgive each other if there was something that hurt the other seeking to repair it.

hug when you see, spending a few minutes in that reunion is very important. manifest love that we feel and that the other person feels loved is crucial. Have small gestures that make the other feel that we had him present in our day, strive to please the other and demonstrate admiration for his person are gestures that sometimes in the whirlwind of day to day we do not take into account and make our partner feel loved and satisfaced.

Let us remember that it is just as fundamental to feel loved and that our partner feels our love and that goes beyond telling him. Dedicating time to microadventures, living experiences together, celebrating, laughing, is what unites us the most.

Healthy mood management makes it so that no matter how many difficulties we face, we find in each other that refuge and the ability to laugh ourselves and the situations we live in, finding that magic that connects us with what positive.

Let us love with all our soul, but first ourselves, and we will find the way to love the other in a healthy way.