What is affective responsibility and how to use it?

Having affective responsibility means establishing relationships or consequent bondsequally and with empathy.

Affective responsibility implies taking into account the consequences of one's own actions in the another, and think about your partner, friend or family member before making decisions that may affect them. It also implies taking charge of our actions, it is not, nor should it be, to submit.

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Perfect relationships or affective responsibility?

There are no magic recipes for a perfect relationship. To have a responsible relationship it is necessary to understand that this connection consists of more than one person. That is why we must flee from self-centeredness and use the empathy.

You have to be clear that any relationship will have complications or problems; the important thing is to know how to deal with them. Consider that any action will have a consequence, because all our actions have a consequence and that is why we have to be empathetic to value.

What is assertive communication?

Affective responsibility is being able to say what bothers us and what we feel in order to prevent and overcome conflicts. It is also express yourself clearly and honestly, and establish what is allowed and what is not and encourage dialogue, because a negotiation through communication is the solution of a dispute.

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It is not emotional responsibility...

• Invalidate the emotions of the other person, overcome the limits.
• Play with the illusions of others, nor believe that others can guess what we feel, need or think.
• A person who does not take responsibility cannot make or carry out a commitment, has humor changes frequent seemingly for no reason, he has no control over his own thoughts and emotions, but does his best to control those close to him and outside.

If we detect this attitude it is us, we must correct it.

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What is ghosting?

Ghosting is cutting off a relationship without warning.. This attitude only reflects a lack of communication and care with others.

In this sense, affective responsibility dictates that a breakup must be dealt with sincerely, no matter how painful it may be. Running away from this situation, the only thing you get is to hurt the other person.

Ghosting also occurs when you are getting to know someone. It does not matter whether they are causal relationships or open relationships, every bond needs emotional responsibility.

The most important thing is that all parties in a relationship agree with that link, this is the best way to make any type of link that unites us with other people work correctly.

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What you should do to end a relationship without hurting

It is not about avoiding the pain of the other at all costs, nor to prioritize their needs and desires at the expense of ours, but in:

• Think about what you want and also why you want it.
• Think about what you are going to say and how another person might react.
• Keep good intentions.
• Be honest, but not cruel.
• Say it in person.
• If it helps you trust someone you trust.

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Conclution

Affective responsibility will help us overcome and face conflictss in our relationships with others. It will give us greater stability and gives us the opportunity to help others. Conflict can also be seen as an opportunity to develop skills to learn how to deal with it. Don't run away, face up!