The 4 types of lonely people

The human being is by nature a social being and that is why loneliness is often seen as something negative. However, there are people who enjoy their solitude and prefer to choose to spend their free time alone at certain times; although we can also meet people who suffer because of their loneliness and want to avoid that feeling at all costs.

The types of lonely people that we can find are the following: “conformist lonely people”, “conscious and proactive solitaries”, “combatant or escapist solitaries” and, lastly, “suffering or martyrs”.

In this article let's see what each of the types of lonely people consists of, both in terms of their distinctive characteristics and in terms of their common aspects.

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Characteristics of lonely people

It is important to highlight before looking at the types of lonely people, what are the most common characteristics of those lonely people who enjoy spending time with themselves.

Although social relationships are very important for people and establishing emotional ties with others is one of the fundamental pillars for good health,

it is also important to know how to be well with ourselvesTherefore, in order to have healthy interpersonal relationships, it is essential to have developed a knowledge of how to be healthy when someone is alone.

We could say that in this field the ideal would be to find a certain balance between knowing how to enjoy and take advantage of moments alone and, in turn, develop healthy interpersonal relationships and durable.

Below we will list some characteristics of those people who enjoy being alone and prefer to be alone on certain occasions, although they also do it when they are in the company of other people:

• They have developed great introspection and self-knowledge, so they have very clear ideas.
• They usually value their time above all else, taking advantage of every moment; although they also respect that of others.
• They tend to have great mental strength, so they tend to better cope with complicated situations.
• They tend to develop an open mind, so they are not closed to doing different things or listening to new ideas.
• They tend to be loyal, since they prefer to have a smaller number of friends but who are authentic friends.
• They really enjoy doing solo activities.
• They usually have a great ability to concentrate on what they are doing and enjoy the present.

Now that we have seen some of the most common characteristics of those people who are able to take advantage of their time alone to learn, grow and enjoy, we are going to explain what the different types of lonely people are and, as we can see, there are many people who suffer because of their loneliness, having serious difficulties taking advantage of moments alone to do things that enrich them.

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The different types of lonely people

If we ask on the street about loneliness, it is likely that most people say that they prefer to be in company than alone, since this concept has a rather negative; however, like many other things in life, being alone is not always a negative thing because when a person learns to enjoy their moments of solitude, seeing them in an optimistic way and taking advantage of your time, you can achieve things that perhaps you would not be able to be continuously surrounded by people (p. g., reading a book that enriches you).

As we mentioned before, there is no doubt that everything in excess is bad and, therefore, being completely alone for a long time can be very harmful, but spending certain moments in solitude and knowing how to enjoy them can be very enriching and also healthy, since a good indicator of health is the fact of being well with oneself.

However, not all the circumstances that have led a person to be alone are the same, nor do all people face it. people from the same firm and, therefore, we are going to comment below on the different types of lonely people that we can find.

1. Conformist lonely people

The first of the types of lonely people in this classification is that of the "conformist loners" who make up those people who they are alone and they are satisfied with that situation even if they do not find it pleasant to be like this.

In this category we can find people who, although they consider that they will enjoy things and life in general more when accompanied by other people and who also do not enjoy loneliness, do not do anything to change that situation that is bothering them and causing certain discomfort. In these cases, it usually happens that these people have certain difficulties when establishing new interpersonal relationships of any kind (friendship or sentimental).

Conformist Lonely People They tend to be passive when seeking interactions with other people in order to maintain healthy and lasting interpersonal relationships., so that they are usually passively waiting for others to take the first step to interact with them, so this could be the main cause of his loneliness, since others could interpret his passivity as a refusal to establish social contact with others. the rest.

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2. Conscious and proactive lonely people

The "conscious loners" is the second of the types of lonely people in this classification and refers to those people who are aware of their loneliness and do not worry about it in the sense that they accept the circumstances as they are and do not seek to deceive themselves, Way that they do not spend their time longing for the company of other people but rather try to keep themselves busy doing tasks that they enjoy and make them grow at various levels, thus investing their time in themselves (p. g., playing sports, reading a book that they like and that teaches them interesting things, etc.).

The loneliness of conscientious lonely people could have been caused by various reasons such as certain life circumstances or they could simply be lonely by choice. In either case, these people try to see the positive side of their situation and try to take advantage of it, spending that time on things that make them grow and even enjoy their own company.

The conscious loners They also have no difficulty relating to other people. and they may even have healthy relationships with friends and family that they really enjoy when they are in their company; however, they are not worried about being alone and also at certain times they prefer to be alone and isolate themselves.

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3. Lonely fighters or escapists

The third of the types of lonely people in this classification is that of the "lone fighters", which deals with those people who they don't want to accept their loneliness, so they try to fight to eradicate it and for this they try to have a very busy life and a very tight social life that can leave them exhausted.

All these actions may even imply that the lone combatants lead a lifestyle and a series of behaviors that go against what they really feel; that is, they do things that do not really come from within in order to integrate socially with other people (p. e.g., partying with other people even if they don't feel like it, playing a sport that doesn't appeal to them attention with the aim of integrating socially in a group of people who practice it, etc.).

Therefore, in this case we can find people who they do everything possible not to spend moments of loneliness and, although they are usually busy all day and surrounded by other people, in reality they feel lonely deep down because In many cases, they are not doing activities that they really like, but only do them to be surrounded by others. people.

They avoid loneliness at all costs because feeling it generates quite a lot of fear and, instead of trying to find activities where they can enjoy their own company and face those moments in solitude, they prefer to choose to avoid being alone, in any case, because they have the belief that they could only feel good if they were alone. accompanied.

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4. Lonely people suffering or martyrs

The "suffering lonely" is the fourth of the types of lonely people in this classification. Those people feel a deep state of discomfort when they are alone, so they continually complain about their situation and therefore feel unhappy.

These people when they talk to someone about themselves (p. g., with a family member or with a psychologist during therapy), they constantly express their suffering and also talk about how unhappy they are. that they feel and, that constant negativity when it comes to expressing themselves and feeling for most of the time, is what they transmit to the others, so it could cause some people to end up moving even further away from her, which would cause her feeling to increase even more of loneliness

It is quite common for lonely suffering people to tell others how bad they feel and the misfortunes they are going through in order to seek their sympathy; however, that negativity that they transmit most of the time and their constant need to complain could actually cause is that others do not enjoy your company and therefore they can get away from them.