Why is it important to take charge of your emotions?

Be aware of your emotions, why they are there, what they want to tell you and how they affect your relationships, is the pillar to start regulating your emotions and get out of the "emotional roller coaster".

In this sense, the emotional responsibility It is a key concept.

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What is emotional responsibility?

Emotional responsibility is about assume the power you have in how you feel things, how you express them, and consequently, in how you act. For that you will first need to start your journey of personal growth understanding why you feel that way.

Let's start by understanding that it is the same to blame others (be they situations or people) for your discomfort, as it is to give power to others for your well-being. By taking responsibility for your emotions you can find that balance in your day to day, without feeling helpless in the face of what happens to you, knowing what is in your power to be better, resist or overcome something. decide how you manage your emotions and how to respond to the vicissitudes of life.

Yes, you are right, many times you will have reasons to feel bad and these will possibly make you feel that you do not have control over how you feel. It may be that your partner does not stop looking for you to argue, that your boss stresses you out or that not having money leads you to a situation of agony, that the pain of a loss gives you no quarter.

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What is your role?

Behind statements such as "each person takes things in a certain way" or "change your way of thinking so that other things happen to you", there is a truth, which is that you have a lot of room to act differently.

There are and there will be things that can affect you and be like a hurricane for you, but after despair, pain and helplessness, even after hitting rock bottom. At this point there is only one direction for you, to go up, since At some point you get tired of being carried away by the current, and right there begins to be prepared to resurface from emotional responsibility.

Whatever you are going through, there is always a part that depends on you to feel better. Now assume that there is power in you and that you are capable, even if you don't feel it, of fighting for yourself and for your happiness.

looking inside you

Understanding why you feel this way is like undoing a knot in your back that has been calcified for a long time from not treating it and not taking care of it; It only leaves you with a trace of pain, but it is still there bothering you and limiting or determining your way of feeling and acting.

If you are used to listening to yourself, it will be easy for you to look inside yourself, in your history. For example, knowing that you are sensitive to criticism allows you not to get carried away because your boss makes you feel useless, and knowing that even if you feel it, it is not so, Well, he is correcting you for a specific fact and although your whole psyche is disturbed by that well-known feeling of uselessness, you know that it is not like that because you carry listening to him for a long time and you know that he talks about your past stories and how they made you feel and not about your present.

Instead, someone who is not used to listening to himself in that same situation will easily become vulnerable. He will feel that the boss makes him feel useless and he will take two paths, and both have to see where we put the focus.

The focus on oneself

The person will believe it as a confirmed truth. Time and time again they make you feel like a useless person, and it will definitely be because they are right and there is nothing you are doing right. He will try to correct himself and do everything very well. He will end up demotivating himself in the long term, since no matter how hard he tries he does not receive the recognition he deserves, the world does not return a sample of his great worth.

The focus to the outside

The person ends up blaming others, surely criticizing the boss and talking about how difficult life is for him, and that he is fed up and feels undervalued. He will continue to feel bad, but he will not do anything to correct it In the short term this person will stop make an effort because not realizing the middle point of the situation does not feel that it is of any use do it right

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By taking responsibility I am assuming control

As we have seen, if you listen to yourself, you begin to understand yourself, and that allows you to take control. Take control of how you feel and why without constantly falling into projecting your control outside or feeling helpless that you have no power over the situation. You project on others or on situations by making them absolutely responsible for how they make you feel, so you also you take charge of the feelings of others as if you had a magic wand to save or solve suffering alien. Each one accepts his own while accepting his power to change how this emotional burden affects him.

To do?

According to a study carried out in the Department of Cognitive Neuroscience at College London, to improve your psychological health you must shape adequate emotional responsibility to be able to take control of the things that happen to you and not feel adrift.

It's time to learn that saying "you make me angry" or "I can't do anything about this situation" is a dead end. Manage your feelings from joy to anger; by taking responsibility for your part, you open the way to listen to you, because the answers and the power are in you and in your ability to decide to act differently.