The importance of boundaries in interpersonal relationships

Being aware of the importance of self-schemas and values, a relationship can develop in a healthy way, creating a special bond.

For this it is necessary recognize feelings, emotions and assume mistakes. We can never expect our happiness to depend on people; we must provide, manage and work on ourselves, it never works to wait for the other to do what we want.

Every relationship must be united by support, commitment and unconditional love; striving every day to be the best version of ourselves to accompany ourselves with that / to another through patience, leaving the pride that spoils relationships, but keeping the boundaries that make healthy relationships.

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Setting Boundaries in Relationships

The human being is born with the need to be loved; However, before looking for love, You must learn to love, accept and value yourself.; when he reaches this level, he will always take into account the limits of both the people around him and his own. That is, the limits must be clear and respected for the well-being of any relationship, and these are formed through self-love.

When you meet a person, you learn to know their limits implicitly, it is not necessary to mention them. The dividing line in any relationship is drawn from the beginning. Nevertheless, there are many people who do not read between the lines and who generally go too far. In cases like this, it is necessary to clarify their own limits in order to "have the party in peace".

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How are the five self-schemas defined?

On the other hand, the human develops resilience and its self-schemas through the circumstances experienced; the latter are the ones that will determine the progress of healthy relationships, not only interpersonally, but also personally.

Self-schemas train an individual to face a perverse and egocentric world, from which it is difficult to leave if there is no clarity in what you want and what you have. This means that the person must appropriate and be aware of the five self-schemas that govern him: your self-image, self-concept, self-efficacy, self-acceptance and self-esteem. Although the most mentioned is self-esteem, it is vitally important not to neglect the other four elements in order to have healthy self-schemas, since the five are interrelated, forming part of the character of the person, the bond with oneself and with the medium.

• Self-image: It is the criterion of Corporal Image that one has of oneself.
• Self-concept: It is the Reference of oneself.
• Self-efficacy: These are the own and developed skills.
• Self-acceptance: It is Unconditional Love for oneself.
• Self-esteem: It is the value you have of yourself.

However, it is important to recognize that self-schemas are not only essential in any relationship, but also Values ​​that are frequently withering and trampling today are necessary. Values ​​and principles such as: respect, trust, humility, tolerance, active listening, kindness, service, dedication, commitment and love.

Bearing in mind the self-schemas and values ​​mentioned above, relationships begin with the knowledge of the own limits and the foundation of happiness to recognize that of the people around us, even more so with the partner.

Happiness is a state of mind that is achieved when there is satisfaction and joy in what you are, in what you do, and in what you have; it comes from you and depends on oneself; your partner is only there to complement you and share your joys, dreams, ideals and achievements that are established by mutual agreement.

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In conclusion...

Your partner's duty is not to make you happy, yours is.; it is your duty to work for your inner desires and for your emotional stability.

The person you choose to share your life with is an imperfect human being, full of mistakes, with dreams, desires and limits, just like you. No one will be your safe source, no one can be your savior, since only you are the one who governs your life, your emotions and feelings; only you have the ability to remake yourself a thousand times; get up when you are down.

It is complex, but you have all the tools to do it, you are a perfect creation, you own yourself.

A sentimental relationship is a decision of two people who will never get to know each other, since no one has the ability to do it definitively, because we are changing beings and in constant construction. But they are two people who decide to love each other, accompany each other and share a life together in communion healthy, recognizing that there are thousands of differences, limits to respect and a common feeling: love.

To maintain good interpersonal relationships, it is necessary to work on self-schemas; You can do this perfectly with your therapist.