Fast and Furious: The taboo of our time

This is how the passage of time is presented to us, so fast and with so much to see and experience that we cannot catch it between our two hands.

The cult of not missing out on anything has become a habit. God helps those who wake up earlier, says the popular saying. Devoted to speed, we have become a society of the immediate, discarding the value of the process.

Every important thing in our lives and in nature has been shaped over time, with dedication and with observation; however, millions of years of history have not helped us to understand the value of stopping, observing and appreciating the wonder of the passing of time.

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The taboo of change

The passage of time has become a taboo, and our value lies in being able to jump the limits. What is forbidden is no longer sex; the fact of not being an accumulator of serial experiences, or a "worker of love" that is not accepted. In return, whoever enjoys living and cultivating those first times together is seen as old-fashioned.

Success is measured in time It goes from where you are today to how long it takes you to reach your limit., death. Limit impossible to know and represent. The further away you are, the better, you will be younger and the more things you will have to do; Otherwise, times of misery and seclusion are coming.

Eternal teenagers without commitment, with a fearful concept of life, anguished by the passage of time and the number that represents their age, experienced as a stigma. Scared of being separated or discriminated against, for not fitting into an ideal built by a suffering society that knows and feels the poor value of the superficial and the strenuous of the race to no one knows where, but who does not know or is afraid to go deeper and prefers "fast" thinking food¨. Quick and simple solutions of little flight, but that leave the illusion of having solved pains deep processes that are only processed within a transit that necessarily requires the correct use of the weather.

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Live always accelerating

Today, the disease of living fast is common currency, children have their agendas filled with extracurricular activities, adolescents live at a very young age and with the consent of their parents, experiences to which their brains cannot biologically respond appropriately, young adults do not have time for their personal life and put it off, but they play all sports, claim private time, and complain when their biological clock starts ticking signals.

Something similar happens with older people, the pressure to be active is the motivation, just not to look old or out of date. Rejuvenation treatments are applied to all parts of the body. The non-acceptance of our own evolution accelerates us a little more, and in this paradox of not As we get older we come faster to recognize from a place almost of horror, the marks of the passing of time. weather.

Along with this, the daily processes lose the value experience where the germination process makes the difference.

At work, quick and brilliant ideas are what are valued. Ideas that actually arise from a thought process and time of internal maturation, but that are sold by the same creatives as flashes of ideas that arise in a moment. The psychic and biological reality tells us the opposite. An idea, an inspiration, a project arises from an internal maturation and nothing instantaneous. But that part does not come to light, it is not said. If you are slow, by these parameters you are no longer seen as appreciated or intelligent. Stress illnesses, needless to say, continue to increase, and their effects are already beginning to be seen in young children.

Some examples of this are observed in certain communities where entering prestigious universities or simply having a vacancy in an early childhood school is a value and a trophy that is traveled with stress and Pressure. Thus, from a very young age we mistakenly learn that the value of doing it quickly or before will lead us to success.

Reformulating the concept of success is one of the keys to being able to find ourselves in life enjoying each of our times. We forget to value that being alive, in itself, is already an achievement. It seems that the pandemic that should have taught us so much did not make enough of a dent in terms of appreciating the value of everyday life.

And it is at this point where the wisdom of the ages should reinforce this concept, those infected by this virus of how fast cannot show that value, since they are busy keeping their own age from showing. Belonging both to society and to the time in which we live should reflect that it is not just adapting and getting rich of the new ideas of how to live or enjoy a more varied, diverse sexuality, with less discrimination and more awareness. Belonging is also that we are all within the same range beyond our age and remain active and integrated. Not confusing “active” as “exposed” or unnoticed in the eyes of others or in social networks. Today, activity is measured by the level of entertainment we provide.

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The need to rest

In the same way that the muscles of the body need rest to recover the damaged fiber and grow, in the same way we need rest so that our brain, our encouragement and so our well-being arises. Finding the balance is not about working more or saving money or time for the future, it is about a judicious and adult measure of how to live a compensated life.

Welcome to aesthetics and its treatments, but we all see daily the ravages produced by the distortion of the internal image, generating excesses that more than beautify or restore Some changes resulting from the age we go through, produce the opposite effect, exposing precisely what aesthetics cannot solve and is a mission for another area of ​​the science. Activity, for those who like it, is a pleasure, but it is not necessary nor does it produce a healthy internal compensation when it is done just to show off; the true meaning of sport or competition has been lost. Compete first, is to overcome ourselves.

Retaking the value of how productive the passage of time can be would be something interesting to consider. Both in daily life and in companies, since the recognition of experience could also work as an antidote to the "run fast and you'll get there" of the younger ones to mingle with the experience of the greater. In this way, learning while enjoying the learning process itself in this mix of generations cannot lead to more enrichment.

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Beliefs that prevent us from moving forward

There is a lot of talk about limiting beliefs and it is said that they are responsible for how we see and live our reality. The social and personal beliefs that we have regarding being old, old age, speed in doing, or how we live with the idea of ​​death, is what today generates a taboo. A social construction of which it is preferred not to speak, but of which we are all complicit in silence.

In this way, it is difficult for those more advanced moments of life to be expected or simply transited without the ghost of imagining myself abandoned and little or nothing recognized. We are building as a society a distressing present, vertiginous not to see and an equal future if we do not intend to review how and in what way we want to live.

We forget what we did yesterday, of what does not have a place or an alarm on the cell phone, we confuse what is important with what is urgent.

Quite often we hear "my life doesn't fulfill me", "I'm bored", "that which used to entertain me no longer", "I don't find meaning in my work". Everything seems superficial, but in reality the superficial is what distracts us of the real issue, which is not being able to accept changes, the passage of time, growing up, nurturing ourselves from the stages and enjoying them.

Growing up is not the same as getting old, because teaching how to grow and enjoy the process is a task that requires having been able to incorporate the experience in such a way that it becomes an asset. To put it another way, consciously and genuinely review our legitimate resources, refine, if necessary, what remains obscure to us, to use formal and emotional intelligence to share with others a world that integrates and get better.

Stop calling "retirement" a moment in life that is far from being it. Understand that being young is just a time on the timeline of our lives. Incorporate the idea that it is better to review how and with what we enjoy and, above all, add experiences that make life valuable at all times. This is more a matter of attitude than age. Silvana Weckesser.