How to enhance your charisma (through 6 habits)

Charisma is one of the most valuable elements of all those related to personality and social relationships. However, it is not easy to reach a point where what can make us charismatic is fully mastered. After all, talking to others, expressing yourself to connect with someone, is complex.

In this article we will review various ways to enhance charisma from the foundations of meaningful social relationships.

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Enhance charisma through habits

Follow these steps to start training your charisma on a day-to-day basis.

1. sleep well and eat well

It seems like a minor detail, but this step is basic. Unless you are a person with a very high energy level, you will not be able to give your best version in social relationships if you always suffer from the effects of fatigue and sleep.

If fatigue dominates you, you will naturally and spontaneously tend to adopt a passive attitude., both physically and psychologically. Your non-verbal language will express much less, and your way of managing conversations will be much more conservative than normal: you will keep a low and discreet profile to make it the other person who takes the initiative, just because of something that happens to you and although the interlocutor or interlocutor does not even pretend to be the dominant part of this relationship.

So, maintaining fundamentally healthy living standards is something that will allow us to be 100% in this kind of social interactions. It seems not, but although technically talking and relating to others is not a sport, It's something that requires a lot of energy if done right.. After all, the brain is a set of organs that consume a large part of the nutrients available in our organism, and communicating and adapting in real time to what the other is doing is a task that requires attention constant.

2. free your hands

One of the blunders that many people make when it comes to relating is to believe that speaking is simply using your voice and moving your head. Putting your hands in your pockets or crossing your arms are the clearest signs that you have fallen into this trap.

Something as simple as forcing yourself to always have your hands free will make us gain ease in mastering this very basic aspect of non-verbal communication. Once this is done, it is easier for the rest of the non-verbal components of the expression to be released.

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3. The importance of eye contact

When speaking, it is very important to look into the eyes. This is the "backbone" of the non-verbal part of conversations, the foundation from which everything is built. However, don't obsess over looking them exactly in the eye, as this will only make you nervous. It is better to limit yourself to trying not to look at the ground, at the person's chest or to the sides. This way, naturally the two eyes will meet unconsciously, without our realizing it.

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4. cultivate your inner world

If we were to reduce the meaning of the concept of charisma to a minimum, that definition would be something like: the fact of having personality and knowing how to express it clearly and distinctively. Deep down, each person with charisma is charismatic in their own way, since there are practically infinite ways to be so. There is a common element to all of them, but there is also something unique.

In order to improve the charism, then, it is essential to develop one's own philosophy of life and, in general, a cultural background that makes it easy to connect easily with many types of people. Knowing about music allows one to relate better with some, knowing about psychology helps to converse with others... For this reason, books and in general all cultural products become, in this way, means through which to reach more people, and in a more deep.

5. Be interested in what excites the other

This is something as important as it is simple. To enhance charisma, the communication we establish with other people has to be based on things with meaning. Ask not about work, but about projects, not about studies, but about areas of interest... in general, have the other person tell little stories about their life that mean a lot to her. The simple fact of remembering them and explaining them to someone has two effects.

On the one hand, our interlocutor or interlocutor will have a pleasant time being the center of attention when telling something in which he is the highest authority; You have to be very shy for the feeling of vulnerability to overcome the desire to express something about what motivates us.

On the other hand, these kinds of conversations are a great way to create a flowing conversation, that is not limited to being a succession of monosyllabic questions and answers. In addition, when talking about relevant aspects and that have to do with the philosophy of life of each one, it gives rise to talk exchanging opinions and showing the perception of reality of each one. It is the ideal context to capture our personality, combined with what we saw in the previous point.

6. Don't forget the names

Another little trick to gain charisma is to simply remember the name of those people with whom we have related and, if possible, those important things about themselves that they have explained to us. It is, in short, another way of demonstrating that those conversations in the past were something with real value, something that deserves to be remembered.