The master key to stop suffering

You don't suffer for what happens in your life. You suffer from what your mind tells you about what is happening. No external event creates the mental pain you feel. None. Your pleasant or painful experience is nothing more than the result caused by the thoughts that your mind generates on each occasion.

Think that If how we feel depended solely on what is happening, there would be no use reading, studying, meditating, or trying to learn anything. about how we function, since that would have no practical relevance to us. We would not all suffer the same in the face of the same events.

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Let's look at this more visually

You are on a paradisiacal beach, surrounded by many people who love and value you, in the middle of a great celebration in your honor. You have a wonderful love relationship, iron health, a lot of money and a profession that you are passionate about... everything is going great externally. But if your mind is thinking about things that are very unpleasant, that scare you, or that cause you pain...

It is clear that despite the seemingly pleasant circumstances, you are not going to feel good. The good thing is that it's a two way road. If you are going through a terrible situation at all levels, but inside you are capable of generating thoughts of peace, certainty and security... The experience will be lighter.

Life is an inner game in which it is essential that you take care of your exterior as the wonderful garden that it is, but remember that your state of peace, joy or happiness only flourishes within you. We develop this in the complete series of 7 books Open your eyes.

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Let's go ahead...

The profound truth contained in the phrase "what happens on the outside is very important, but what what happens inside you is decisive”, marks the definitive option if what you want is to live your best life. The most common is the external approach. The logical basis for this is that obviously our senses are directed in that direction: sight, hearing, touch...

The problem that this causes us, however, is that, by focusing first on the exterior, and giving it top priority, we lose the perspective of what really creates our experience, and from where you really live it, which is in your inside.

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We have another option...

Imagine that you are facing a challenging situation., such as a breakup, and that there are two other people in an identical circumstance:

It turns out that one of them, facing that, suffers much more than you. He goes into a great state of crisis for several years, starts taking medication, loses his job...

Then there is you, who lives this with a lot of pain, but not nearly as much as the first person. You are suffering for a while, but despite this you continue with your routine. Until finally in several months you are fully recovered again.

And it turns out that the same thing happens to the third person, his partner breaks up, suffers, but both the intensity and the time he experiences it is insignificant, compared to you and the other individual. So in no time she is back to living her life, content and joyful.

¿What is the reason for a person to suffer more or less than others?, when they are really living practically the same?

There are many possible answers that point to the origin and contribute to this, but only one of them points exactly to the heart of the problem, and that is again:

You don't suffer for what happens in your life. You suffer from what your mind tells you about what is happening. You determine your inner experience through the conscious or unconscious use of the mind. And what allows you to savor more of the "good" and less of the "bad" no matter what is, again: Your ability to use your mind.

And the same thing happens with pain... No matter what happens in your life, if your mind holds steady within thoughts of certainty, security, and peace, that is what you will have.

So congratulations! You already have another piece in your mental puzzle. This compression that you have just carried out differentiates you from the 95% who are unaware of such a mechanism, with the corresponding possibilities that it entails in your evolution towards your best life.

Any situation is easier when your mind knows how to deal with it. And that is given to you by external experience and internal work.

Most people are happy about things, situations or circumstances that superficially seem favorable and that announce states of joy and tranquility, but that later cause what contrary. At the same time become sad, angry or frustrated by situations that are intense or painful, because they think they are bad or that they are not ideal to be happy.

However, many times, under the pain inherent in these situations, it is accompanied by lessons of incalculable value and prepare us to be much stronger.