Do we live or do we survive?

How many times in your day to day do you think, very much to yourself, without sharing it with anyone: is this life?

In the daily routine, you go up, you go down, you go in, you go out, you are in the daily chore of day to day. And everything is going well, at least as it should be. And you go on living day after day. But there may also be times when you feel on edge. Tiny moments in which -almost without (wanting) to realize it- you do not find a meaning. You feel like you can't anymore. You want to escape from reality.

It is the day to day that drags youa, and that you don't think I can change. It is a reality that requires you to take care of what is happening: work, your partner, your family, and also your children -if you have them...

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It is the reality that sometimes overwhelms

It is the same reality that leads you -almost without realizing it- to continue. Of course! We have to keep going! Because you can.

And only in very precise moments, those moments in which you can't take it anymore and feeling prevails, then you feel... you realize that you feel, and yes, you do feel!

Even if it's only inward, because you don't share it with anyoneIt is something so intimate, so yours! And in that thousandth of a second in which you allow yourself and can feel, then you let yourself go and the feeling absorbs you and you realize that something is not right (only for you, yourself). And very secretly - also only for you - you know that you are not living what you want, you are not living the life you want.

You realize that what is happening is happening, and for you it is also something, but it is not what you want. And for a split second you feel like what you're noticing isn't what you really want. What you are experiencing is not 'living'. What you are doing is just 'surviving'.

And you continue in life, surviving. You survive what happens to you. You survive life itself. And you keep going, because a part of you wants to and as a person you tell yourself that you deserve it, because you are worth it, because you can. Although sometimes it costs, although sometimes you like it less, but you always keep moving forward, encouraging yourself, overcoming yourself, believing that it's worth it. And you smile. And you keep looking forward. And what others see is that you're fine.

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you are not alone

We all survive a reality that we make our own. The "reality" is what you feel while you live... Although it is understood that reality is one, your life is one, unique and you only have to "comply" only with it, with your life. We get confused with what is imposed on us as 'normal', what is socially accepted and valued. If this did not exist: what would you feel?

your reality is a moment to moment in which you can be, in which you can be, as you feel: with your ups, with your downs too, with the feeling of not wanting to continue or with the feeling that you can handle everything. You are all that.

Living in society imposes certain "norms" on us. But let us not forget that it is thanks to our differentiation that this society is possible. It's not about forgetting or postponing who you are. It is about accepting that you are a unique and unrepeatable being. That is precisely our greatness.

The society in which we live encourages us to maintain "composure", to show what is expected of us: it is a ´comply´ with what is “normal”; It demands us to deal with what is outside, to respond, to solve, to “power with everything”. It forces us to “do” in order to be what we are expected to be. It pushes us not to give in to what we feel, to what is really happening inside...

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Concluding...

It's not about having it all, but to understand and feel what we really want. It's not about having or not having, but about what I really want because it fits who I am.

It is listening to ourselves that can really free us and thus make us feel happier.

Tell me, and what do you have to tell yourself?