How does poor family reconciliation affect parenting?

Family reconciliation is the ability of each worker to integrate work life and the demands of his work with the family and personal life of his day to day, making it possible for him to have a life in common with his family beyond work.

In this sense, the possibility of harmonizing private life and professional life it should be a primary requirement in all employment contexts; however, today many people cannot successfully manage the difficult balance between professional world and the family world, and some even come to feel guilty for devoting quality time to his.

For this reason, family reconciliation has psychosocial implications of the first order, something that is especially clear when the worker has young children to raise. Therefore, in this article we will delve into the subject of how a bad family conciliation influences upbringing.

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This is how an insufficient family conciliation affects the upbringing of children

Satisfactory family reconciliation has a positive effect both on the worker who is capable of achieving it and on the members of your family, who will feel cared for and will also see their material and affective This implies both having enough free time to dedicate to the family, as well as having the ability to to balance schedules with the rest of its members to live with them in an effective way and not purely formal.

However, in homes where parents cannot or have difficulties in achieving proper family reconciliation, In the long run, a series of affectations can occur in the upbringing of their children, which influence many aspects of their lives. daily.

1. feelings of abandonment

Poor family reconciliation almost always entails a neglect of many of the functions that parents must attend to with respect to their children, which It can be seen by the latter as a lack of responsibility or carelessness or disinterest in their well-being.

Faced with this apparent carelessness of parents, it is common for children to develop a feeling of abandonment more or less intense that can affect the person more or less depending on the personal characteristics of each child or little girl.

This feeling of abandonment can be related to the development of a series of psychological alterations in the boy or girl that may have negative consequences for their personality and mental health in the future.

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2. Excessiveness in raising children

Some parents who cannot find a balance between personal and professional life find many difficulties spending time with their children and fail to find times of the day to spend time with they.

So that their children are not left alone for long hours of the day, their parents tend to practice upbringing that requires their children being always busy doing all kinds of extracurricular activities, with practically no time to rest or play with children their age.

In addition to that, parents who are very busy with their work during the day also tend to require their children to be more autonomous than they should be for their age.

3. Deficits in school performance

The fact of neglecting one's own children can cause them to develop problems of all kinds, also in their daily school or academic performance.

This can mainly affect younger children who, without the support or supervision of their parents in academic matters, can see their performance and grades in school have decreased, as well as feeling less motivated about their education because they do not understand what they get out of it process.

In other cases, the child may simply stop studying or making an effort considering that her parents do not care about him or even that they do not love him, and therefore adopts a revenge and blame mentality by doing the opposite of what is asked of him.

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4. Pampering children excessively

As we have indicated, poor family reconciliation leads to the abandonment of the functions of many parents in relation to the daily responsibilities they have with their children.

Faced with this deficit of attention and affection, some parents have a tendency to pamper their children to "compensate" for her long absences, for example, giving the children everything they want, when they they want.

This ends up affecting the development of the children, who grow up in a family context that is too permissive, something that in the future will cause them problems when it comes to dealing with refusals in the real world that can cause them discomfort or frustration.

5. Tendency to overprotection

In parents who are unable to reconcile their work life with family life, there may also be a general tendency of Being overprotective when perceiving that their children are exposing themselves to risks by not being home for long hours weekly,

This overprotection decisively affects the growth of children and ends up generating in them a personality based on the fear of the unknown in life, in low confidence in themselves and in the inability to take on challenges or leave their comfort zone.

6. Alterations in the development of the child

There are many alterations that can occur in the normal functioning of the child before parents who do not know how to correctly reconcile their work with family life.

In general, faced with absent parents, children they may end up developing attachment problems, insecurities of all kinds, fears, phobias, and all kinds of significant psychological alterations.

In addition, it can happen, especially in adolescent children who end up developing a rebellious personality and who may end up having addictions to substances of all kinds.

Some of the psychological alterations that boys and girls with absent fathers can develop They can be cases of anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, depressive symptoms, traumas or phobias.

In addition to that, obsessive disorders, fears, eating disorders and other imbalances in their mental health can also develop, arisen from fear of abandonment, low self-esteem or simple boredom for long periods.

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