The search for truth: a principle of full life

From VillaRamadas we believe that we must face several principles in order to have a full life. Here we will talk about the first; the truth.

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The search for truth as a vital principle

The search for truth is one of the great demands of the human being. Those who live in truth are well with themselves and have freedom as a guide for action. Who lives in the truth, fears nothing, increases his self-confidence, credibility and integrity, raising the authenticity of being.

We have the natural ability to change and grow. We are afraid of punishment and repression, we tell small lies, here and there. We judge that, only in this way, can we have the freedom to explore the world through our eyes and with behaviors that allow us to learn, do and be.

These little "non-truths", created out of fear of some consequence, create a habit, to do and not to say. The big question is that there are no big or small lies, just lies.

Living in a lie is living dead

The lie corrodes, uses and kills inside. It is the desperation of maintaining a facade for others and wearing masks to cover up what we think, feel, or how we behave.

It is the fatigue of always remembering what has been said and to whom, so as not to be caught. The lie forces the greatest use of memory and more attention to words. It forces constant vigilance and a permanent state of alert. Tires, destroys, ruins the intimate, values ​​and principles, leading to mental madness.

Individuals remain trapped, worn out, chained, sad and incomplete, whenever they feed on lies.

To live in truth is to live fully

To live in truth is to be complete, joyful, free, without worrying about remembering what you have said and to whom. It is not possible to live on both sides, as so many people have tried for years. It's like being abstinent from alcohol and drugs, but engaging in self-destructive behaviors; or assert themselves as independent and financially dependent on parents.

The truth guides us towards a healthy emotional growth that generates success: "Try to be a person of value, instead of being a person of success", said Albert Einstein.

Before obtaining something, be it financial, professional or anything else, a person needs to be. Before having, we have to be. It is necessary to have very clear truths within you, so that the development of emotional balance is constant, evolutionary.

Emotional management must be done regularly, since every day there are external triggers that trigger our emotions to levels that can be suffocating. For example, if you arrive at work and we fire you, that causes anger, fear and insecurity. If on the same day, you argued with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you feel even worse, perhaps close to the limit. These feelings have to be processed so as not to lead you to despair, depression, madness or death.

The importance of emotional balance

The mind is mysterious and complex. Being so, needs care and a good dose of balance, otherwise serious psychological problems can arise. It is very important to develop cognitive balance by the parameters of truth, because many psychological problems come from traumas, past frustrations, negative beliefs. An example of this is the case of depressive illness, which has reached millions of people in the four corners of the world.

A life focused on the past, temporarily blocked, triggers mental disorder. It is necessary to think correctly about the truths that surround us, evaluate whether or not they are our own truths and define objectives for the future.

It is necessary learn to anticipate all attitudes or behaviors that make you feel guiltysuch as lying. You must live the truth, to avoid uncomfortable situations. And you must avoid behaviors that will never receive support from anyone. Behavior is something that expresses everything you have inside of you. If you squeeze a tomato, no orange juice comes out.

In the same way, what is inside you will always come out within you. As such, your behavior is the mirror of your interior. If you feel anger, guilt, or frustration, and if you haven't learned to process those feelings, those moods will affect your behavior.

The truth is externally important in the development of the balance of feelings, thoughts, behaviors and spirituality, because it is only possible to overcome a problem, illness or crisis, if we do not live in denial. Denying our current reality, what we have, what we are, what we feel, what we live, will totally block our change and growth.

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An example

The decision to opt for the truth and, consequently, to recover freedom of choice, reminds me of a Spanish patient; he was a man I really enjoyed counseling in my early years as a therapist in England.

I still remember the concerns he showed. One day, he questioned me more or less in these terms:

• "But... After living more than 12 years in lies, how can I change? You know, I spontaneously made up lies to tell my mother and told them with such conviction that I even believe them myself.

He I lied as easily as he told the truth. He did it on "autopilot". He, like most of the addicts he worked with, breathed lies. Most of the time he wasn't even aware of it. It was simply her way of feeding his disease.

Pretending, dissimulating, deceiving others was the way to hide his true Being. He lived a double life, oriented towards appearances and illusion..

Helping this patient to recognize, identify and change mental processing was challenging and very stimulating. It is an enormous satisfaction to have helped him win back the trust of her mother in five months. He opted for the truth and was rewarded.

Years after having advised this man, I received a letter with a postage stamp from Marbella, with a photograph inside and a small letter of a few paragraphs. And it said like this:

Since we were together, more than 7 years ago, a lot has changed in my life, partly with your help. I conquered self-esteem, self-esteem, integrity and dignity. Married. I regained the trust of my parents, wife and my sisters. I have just finished the electrician course, I set up a small electrical assembly company, which has much success thanks to our commitment, dedication, sincerity, responsibility and mainly authenticity. But a miracle also happened during these seven years: I am a father. She was born, filling our hearts with love, joy and joy happiness.

It's true, I'm a father! And I am loving every second of my real life in the company of my wife and daughter. Her smile, her clear, pure blue eyes, the soft and fine texture of her skin, her smell... My heart dances with so much emotion in every moment that I live with and for her.

Thank you for having believed in me, when I no longer believed. Today I live in the truth and feel love. True love.