11 things we do on Facebook reveal low self-esteem

We live in an interconnected world, largely thanks to the possibilities provided by new technologies and social networks. In fact today most of us have a profile on different social networks, being one of the most popular Facebook.

But what we publish says a lot about us, revealing traits of our personality and/or our emotional state and self-concept. In this article we show you 11 Things we do on Facebook that reveal low self-esteem.

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Self-concept and self-esteem

Our selfconcept It is the image we have of ourselves. The idea we have of our own identity, formed from experience and from the data we obtain both from ourselves and from other people. It is formed by the set of beliefs and thoughts about oneself, and is linked to others aspects such as expectations in oneself and in one's own capacity, and the self-assessment of said image. It forms part of the fundamental nucleus of our own identity, of our "I".

Self-esteem is the emotional assessment that we make of said self-concept, that is,

how we feel about ourselves The value we place on ourselves. Self-esteem is highly relevant as it greatly influences how we act, interpret reality and even the type of needs and goals we establish to guide our lives.

But self-concept and self-esteem are not something fixed and unchangeable, but can be modified throughout life experience. If we have low self-esteem, it is possible to increase it through various methods.

However, most people only use merely supplementary methods, remaining the beliefs of low self-worth. For example, through social networks. In this way, self-esteem is not really modified, requiring a deeper work at different levels.

Things we do on Facebook that reveal low self-esteem

Social networks are a very powerful tool, which allows us to stay connected, communicate and show part of our life to acquaintances or even to the whole world. In people with low self-esteem, this can be used as a way to replace it, seeking to reinforce themselves. through the appreciation of others and the feeling of belonging offered by social networks such as Facebook.

Here are 11 things we do on Facebook that reveal low self-esteem, often through excessive attention-seeking. But keep in mind that we are only talking about reflecting low self-esteem when it is a habitual pattern of behavior: it is not enough to have ever done any of these things (most of them quite common) to be able to think of a negative self-perception. And in any case we would be before indications and not irrefutable proof.

1. Make or reply to comments such as "Like and I'll write to you"

This is something that, although it may not seem very common, says a lot about the way we use social networks. Whoever does them seeks a positive reaction to their own activity from others.

In the case of those who usually reply to this type of message, their actions may be due to different causes, as sympathy or attraction towards the person who publishes or the type of publication made, but it can also be due to the need for others to interact with him or her (which they achieve by fulfilling the request of others).

2. Self-comments and self-likes

Although it's not usually that common, many people comment on their own posts and even explicitly like them. Although there may be different types of attitudes behind it, one of the most common is self-motivation and the attempt to promote one's own self-esteem as if other people had achieved having published. It is also frequent that it is done due to the desire to produce a knock-on effect in the comments and likes.

3. share it all

Where have I been and with whom, what have I done, what have I eaten, what have I bought... one of the things we do on Facebook that reveals low self-esteem is the publication of all the details of our life, even trivial aspects. Comments about one's own body shape, mood or love status are usually especially indicative, as well as mentioning only achievements.

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4. compulsive posting

Linked to the previous aspect, it is so remarkable that we publish how often. We may have something to say or want to share from time to time, but people who keep posting things over and over several times a day may be indicating that they have an altered emotional state and a low self-esteem that they try to temporarily replace with the attention of others.

5. comment everything

The other side of the coin. While consistently posting everything is indicative of wanting to be served, the same can be said of trying to force interaction with others commenting on all possible posts.

6. provoking arguments

Although discussions and criticism are aspects that can lower a person's self-esteem, they are still a type of interaction. The person who feels ignored and in need of approval may try to resort to these types of tactics. so that others support or criticize him in search of an attention that can be conceived as power of announcement.

7. Use of hints in the form of publications, songs

Hints are used on many occasions to force an interaction with the person to whom are directed, either to arouse interest regarding the person in question or what could have do. They can take the form of a publication, comment, photograph, video or song, for example. And they don't necessarily have to be used in a negative sense or as a taunt, but they can also refer to positive aspects such as emotional ties, falling in love or gratitude.

8. accept anyone as a friend

Insecure people with low self-esteem tend to see their self-perception strengthened if they have a high number of friends. Also, the more people you have added, the more chance someone will see you. There is usually some collecting of friends and they tend to accept a large number of strangers. In this sense, it must be taken into account that unnecessary risks may be taken by being able to acquire details of our private lives.

9. Post selfies constantly

Probably most of us know people who won't stop posting photos of themselves in different poses. Some in positions that seek to be suggestive, show physical attributes or scantily clad, tend to post with the intention of feeling admired or admired (this is common in both sexes) and receive approving comments that corroborate what they need to feel and externally reinforce their self-esteem.

10. Use of “Quiz” type applications

It is not strange to see from time to time that someone you know uses or even creates questionnaires and applications regarding how much is known about certain aspects, or even the degree to which others know them themselves.

Although it may be mere curiosity and entertainment, they may be indicative of either seeking to draw attention to the person himself (if the questionnaires are created in relation to oneself) or that your seeks to increase self-concept and self-esteem through the mastery of different themes. As with all other aspects, it must be taken into account that what is indicative is systematic abuse (It is not enough to use some from time to time).

11. Trying to reflect a life we ​​don't lead

Statistically, most people try to present their best image on the networks. It is normal, but in some cases it can lead people with low self-esteem to make up a fictitious life that you don't really have, falsifying details and even images and videos.