Narcissistic people: 10 traits that will help you recognize them

Narcissus drowned when he fell into the water where he admired the reflection of him, with which he fell madly in love... and so madly!

It is clear that this way of being does not bring anything good with itNot for the narcissistic people themselves, much less for those who have to live with them.

Do you need a little help identifying them? We tell you how they are.

Narcissistic people: 10 traits that serve to recognize them

Here we show you the characteristics of this type of individuals that if they do not kiss themselves it is because they do not arrive:

1. They are very perfectionists

They want to always be the best in everything. Beyond cultivating excellence, narcissistic people become incessant seekers of perfection.

It is not about improving what they consider will bring them personal growth, but about focus in a really obsessive way to excel and surpass the rest.

2. They think they are always right

When it comes to expressing their ideas, they are usually quite forceful, but the particularity in this regard is not that they can defend their arguments in an assertive way, but first of all they believe they are always right without there being any other possibility in this sense.

For narcissistic people being in possession of the absolute truth is a habitual belief (even if it's wrong) almost impossible to change.

3. Many conquests that do not last

These types of people have a natural ability for seduction, since they are charming in the principles of the relationships they establish, which makes it easier for him to have multiple conquests in his life.

The fact that they display their charms in front of those whom they intend to seduce pursues a goal; cajole them to make sure they feed their ego with compliments and attention, not because they really value those people.

However, they do not make this type of romance last long; on the one hand because for narcissistic people, as we mentioned before, their conquests are nothing more than a mirror of which they hope returns an idealized image of them (something more typical of the beginnings of any relationship), and therefore they do not care about the well-being of those people. Thus, little by little the relationship is spoiled.

And on the other hand because, sooner or later, seduced people discover the true way of being of the narcissistic and, unless they are people with too low self-esteem, they end up cutting the relationship.

4. They do not accept criticism

For this class of individuals who, from the outset, believe they are in possession of the absolute truth, there is no possibility of being wrong, neither in their points of view nor in their way of acting; they feel like a kind of "divine beings" and, therefore, above the rest.

So what happens when someone makes some kind of comment to you about their way of being or of proceeding? Well, they take it quite badly, they get defensive and react aggressively, some even in an excessive and violent way. And, as if that were not enough, they are unable to apologize after what happened.

What is behind this way of reacting? A great personal insecurity that makes them feel threatened.

5. Flawless image

In the era of social networks in which the image occupies a leading place for many, it is easy to discover at a glance the characteristics of narcissistic people in many of their users.

They usually spend a lot of time getting the perfect selfie, behind which there are infinite patience couples or friends willing to take on eternal photo sessions and subsequent retouching.

Obviously, much of his time has to do with his dedication to the cult of the body and the care of his external image; attach great importance to the idea they project of themselves and for them everything begins always being impeccable.

6. They talk more than they listen

The difference in this sense of such a person compared to another who is not, does not lie in the fact that be people of great verbiage, since there may be very talkative people who are nothing narcissists.

The point is that they talk about themselves in a way that makes it seem like the world revolves around them, with a more or less concealed arrogant lathe, but trying to capture their superiority and enjoying listening to themselves.

And on the other hand, because they do not give the same importance to what the rest of the people have to say.

7. They are considered the navel of the world

The way in which they contemplate reality is usually very curious, because something that is very characteristic in Narcissistic people is to believe that everything revolves around them and that others also have to believe it.

They are unable to empathize with those they usually deal with, since they only consider their vision of things as valid and unique. And as if that were not enough, it is also common for them to belittle others in order to make them stand out.

8. They depend too much on external recognition

Although they do not give the impression of having a low concept of themselves, the truth is that deep down they are people loaded with personal insecurities, which is why they try so hard to convince themselves otherwise and come to feel superior to the rest.

But since her self-esteem is actually quite fragile, her mechanism for feeding and growing her is seeking adulation from the people they surround themselves with; he needs to create a mirror that returns the image he likes to transmit, even if it is feigned. Since without it, they feel empty.

9. Promiscuous seducers. Infidels in the stable

In terms of couples, we had already commented that they tend to go "from flower to flower" without making the relationships they maintain mature and last. But sometimes they get some of their conquests to hold on for a longer time with them and begin to stabilize.

But fidelity is short-lived as they need to keep the high alive that gives them that modus vivendi by means of which they manage to obtain a renewed interest on the part of people they seduce. Therefore, although they may have a long-term relationship with their partner, they tend to be unfaithful and quite promiscuous.

10. The vulnerable or covert narcissist: the other side of the same coin

There are various nuances that differentiate some narcissists from others, because after all, it is about people, and not only are they different from each other, but they also have different circumstances from each other. But within the difference, in general there are underlying traits that are very similar to each other. With one exception: vulnerable or covert narcissistic people.

In this case, it is more difficult to recognize him as a narcissistic person, since his attitude is less striking than usual. His appearance is of shy and sensitive peopleBut they really hide under that affable facade feelings of self-rejection that lead to permanent unhappiness, defensiveness, and anxiety.

In the case of this type of person, they use a mask that represents a totally different personality than who really is under their skin. They want to be special people and use lying and emotional manipulation to get attention and the appreciation of others.

But the reality is that vulnerable narcissistic people are neither capable of loving nor truly empathizing with other people's emotions. They only act by ensuring their well-being, trying to avoid suffering what they fear the most: abandonment and rejection.