Shy personality: 17 characteristics of these people

There are some signs that help spot a shy person. Shyness is a personality trait that manifests itself very clearly with what you have to do with social skills and an individual's propensity to interact less with the rest.

In some cases, if the shyness is intense, it can become disabling. These people find it very difficult to establish work relationships, love and even friendship. But in most cases it is usually something temporary that only happens when making a first contact with other people and that fades when they manage to create meaningful links.

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Characteristics that distinguish a shy person

Haughtiness is often confused with shyness. When a person behaves in an evasive way, almost does not speak and answers in a low voice, it can be thought that it is a superb way of responding and with this generating the antipathy of others.

But it's actually a typical trait of a shy personality. It is not that they find people unpleasant, what happens is that for them it is more difficult relate, but once they overcome the barrier everything flows and they manage to overcome this elusive state initial.

That is why it is important to recognize the characteristics of shy people. and do not prejudge them.

1. Evasive look

A very clear trait of a shy person is that they do not look us in the eye. This can be confused with indifference or inattention, but in reality what happens is that the look others find it intimidating and overwhelming, so they often do not fix their gaze on the eyes of their interlocutor.

2. Lazy greeting

A shy person does not usually give a strong handshake when greeting. Not to mention giving a kiss or a hug. Regularly when they greet they grab only the tips of the hand or leave it slack and quickly let go.

3. Low voice

A typical characteristic of shy people is that they speak in a very low voice. When greeting or in casual conversation, they use a very low tone of voice. Many times when they try to raise their voice it sounds shrill and out of tune.

4. Stooped

The general posture of shy people is hunched over. As they are trying to hide from the rest of the people, they tend to bend their back and shoulders, this makes them feel more secure because they feel that they see them less and that they go more unnoticed.

5. Crestfallen

In addition to a hunched back, shy people tend to keep their heads down. For example, if they are working, they tend to look down, in this way they feel that they put a barrier so that people around them do not get too close.

6. Blush easily

When they speak to them, they blush easily. Especially if it is a compliment, but sometimes it is enough for someone of greater authority or who likes them to talk to them about any topic so that the blood rises and colors their cheeks.

7. Dumbed down

A shy person speaks very little. When they are in a work or social meeting, it is easy to identify the shy because they hardly speak and remain seated with the posture a little back so that they are not asked something and then they have to speak.

8. Evasive

Shy conversations and responses are elusive. When they are asked something directly, in addition to looking away and speaking softly, they often give vague answers or that compromise them in some way.

9. They want to go unnoticed

They do their best so that no one sees them. That is the reason why they speak in a low voice or hardly speak, their hunched posture and their gaze downward. It is a form of protection for them because what they want is that no one notices their presence and to have to interact as little as possible.

10. Inconspicuous clothing

One of the characteristics of someone shy is that their way of dressing is usually not flashy. They choose colors that are dark, neutral or that correspond to a single pattern. That is, if they like purple, they mostly dress in this color. In addition to wearing loose clothing and usually out of fashion, precisely because they do not want to attract attention and prefer a sober style.

11. They flee from social situations

Shy people don't like social gatherings much. Some are overwhelmed by large parties with lots of people and others prefer them because they go unnoticed. It may also happen that they avoid meetings where active participation is required, such as karaoke.

12. Fear of the new

Although we can all fear the unknown, the shy, in general, fear it even more. It is normal to feel fearful of things that we do not know and are new, but when someone is shy they can become paralyzed and not even have the disposition to face it.

13. Take no risks

A shy person is hardly risky. When the opportunity to do something that seems risky presents itself, shy people don't accept it. This is because they are usually fearful and anything that implies a courageous or showy attitude on their part, they tend to reject it.

14. Concerned about the opinion of others

Something that disproportionately affects the shy is the opinion of others about them. This becomes a vicious cycle. They are affected by what others might say about them, and that makes them more shy. If someone makes a comment towards them, it affects them much more.

15. Avoid physical contact

A shy personality trait is that they avoid physical contact. Especially with people who know little and with whom they do not have a significant connection. When they have gained confidence, they have no problem with hugging and stroking and with physical contact in general.

16. They don't talk much about them

People with shy traits don't like to talk about them. You will rarely see them in a meeting telling an extensive anecdote that involves them. And if someone asks them to talk about them, they will do so briefly and quickly.

17. Scared of speaking in public

Shyness can have negative consequences, for example when having to speak in public. People with this personality trait tend to shy away from situations that expose them to the gaze of others, so many of them they feel anxiety and panic if they have no choice but to go through that drink.

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