Swingers: benefits and drawbacks of swinging

Would you dare to be part of an exchange of couples? For many it is not a pleasant controversial decision, but for others it is rather a bit of fun for get out of bed routine through swinging.

The truth is swingers are no longer taboo that he has to hide in clandestine places. In fact, more and more couples openly opt for this type of open relationship in which, when it comes to sex, they do not necessarily have to be the same all the time.

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What is swinging about?

Its very name indicates it to us, swingers is a sexual lifestyle by which couples who have open relationships choose, where redundancy is worth, we exchange our partner on a certain night to have sex or related activities with sex.

But it's also not as straightforward as simply picking a couple at random and asking them to trade for a night. The couples swinger (as those who exchange couples are called) have a protocol, which includes the visit the club or party swinger, the exchange with the locals and the rules of the couple are followed.

The swinger clubs or parties that you have heard of exist, and they are places that seek to give a stage and environment for these kinds of encounters, which begin and end there during the same night.

Today there are already more than 600 of these places in Europe and the practice of the exchange of couples is now moving to other types of scenarios, such as specialized websites and social networks. But so that we understand it better, we will continue with the example of the club swinger.

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How this type of relationship works

Each couple that decides to be swinger it goes as far as they want, and this includes everything from seduction to sex itself. In any case, something that we could say in general in the swingers is that, when they arrive at the bar, they love and are excited to see how other couples look at theirs, desire it, and how sensuality captures their partner. It is step number one of a swingers, and there are those who only get to this point, observe how their partner is the center of desire for others.

Then there are other things that can be done at a party swinger: The soft swinger or soft exchange, allows kisses, caresses and in some cases oral sex with the other person, but penetration is not achieved; full swap or full exchange, which is when really a couple exchanges with another; And then there are the people who prefer to watch while their partner has sex or just watch how other couples have sex.

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Characteristics to be a swinger

In any case and the most important thing to be able to do an exchange of couples is respect the agreement you have made with your partner. You can go as far as you want in the swinging, but respecting and agreeing on what they do is essential.

This is why having an open relationship is not as simple as many believe, because it requires a high degree of emotional maturity, responsibility and respect between the couple so as not to affect the relationship. And it is that of course, already entered in the heat of passion and with animal instinct on the surface, things could get out of control if you are not responsible enough.

The unbreakable laws of partner exchange They are: never break the rules that have been agreed with the couple, always think that the other is well, never take what happens at night swinger to another terrain, not forgetting the pleasure of the other and not forgetting that enjoyment is for both of you, so nothing to do without your partner.

Benefits of partner exchange

As in everything in this life, the exchange of couples has negative points and positive points, depending on the perspective from which you look at it.

Many couples who have tried it and have come out victorious from the attempt, through the parties swinger they have been able break with monotony and routine that after many years together they even go to bed, even if the approach to exchange is only to observe or to be observed. The fact of participating in this allows them to become erotic again and desire to re-awaken.

At the same time, a scenario of greater freedom and transparency between couples, since communication is so important in them to approach the exchange of couples, they can talk calmly about their fantasies. This same freedom and better communication is transferred to other scenarios of life as a couple.

Disadvantages of partner exchange

But there is also the other side of the coin, in which the exchange of couples has become the source of problems because of jealousy and mistrust, even breaking relationships. This is why there is so much emphasis on responsibility with the partner, clear communication and emotional maturity to be able to live this lifestyle without affecting the emotional bond of the partner.

When couples are not well established, with a strong bond and excellent communication, insecurities, fears and jealousy may appear after a meeting. swinger.

In any case, we are in a moment of openness in which diversity is more than welcome in our society, although it is still difficult for us to break with certain judgments and ideas that have accompanied us for centuries, What the relationship between monogamy and love. The truth is that the exchange of couples is a reality that has worked for more and more people.

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