23 most common limiting beliefs in people

Fearing growth is more common than you think and we don't just mean growing up as adults and having all the responsibilities that that entails, but growing as a person.

Stagnation can often be a constant fear of failure, so we try as much as possible to avoid success and even more to face the obstacles that come our way, because instead of seeing them as a reason to improve, it is a way of reinforcing our weaknesses.

Bringing as a consequence a deep insecurity that can go unnoticed through staying in what we know as a ‘comfort zone’ which can reduce anxiety and worries, but will prevent us from moving forward and arise. Leaving ourselves in the same place always and with which we always find excuses that are disguised as justifications about the limitations we have to improve.

Has it happened to you? That you feel stuck in the same place and feel that no matter how much you want to, you cannot find that leap towards your growth, then this article is for you. We are going to know what are the most common limiting beliefs in people who prevent their success or who inhibit their progress.

What are limiting beliefs?

They are determined as an altered perception of reality and the opportunities that arise, which are evaluated as a Threat to integrity due to the feeling that one's own abilities are not enough to overcome them with success. This not only prevents favorable personal growth in any area of ​​development, but also significantly affects confidence and self-esteem.

The big problem with these beliefs is that if they are not treated in the correct way to eliminate them of the mind, the person will end up normalizing them and making them part of their belief system individual.

Most common limiting beliefs in people

Clarifying the origin and what these beliefs are, know below which of these are the most common and which tend to become a mantra that anchors us to inaction or mediocrity.

1. That's how I am

This is the most classic excuse to avoid giving explanations for inappropriate behavior or not trying something new, although it is very important to have your own convictions and vision of the world, it is never advisable to close to changes. This prevents you from seeing beneficial opportunities for yourself and you will have communication problems.

People who have this limiting belief resist change because they think that change means being someone completely different from who they are or that it will bring something negative to their lives, when it doesn't necessarily have to be the case. A change can be the ideal impetus to hone your skills and grow.

2. The environment must change

This belief only highlights your inability to recognize and assume responsibilities., as well as a poor justification of a consequence caused by a mistake made. It is true that not all the environment is suitable for us, but we must bear in mind the ability to adapt to the environment, have the confidence to interact and stand out harmoniously with everyone, instead of demanding that everything be adapted to you.

3. I can not do it

‘Why can't you?’ ‘Just because I know I cannot’ it is very common to hear this from someone who does not have solid confidence herself and she is afraid to take risks so that she does not have to face the consequences, even if they help her improve in the future.

The problem is... How can you know that you can't do it if you don't try? Trying something new is not a mandatory indication that you have to dedicate yourself to it. If you don't like it or it didn't work for you, then don't do it again, but always keep the learning that it leaves with you.

4. It is better to suppress the emotions

‘Crying in front of others makes you look weak’... But then, you can't vent even at home? People with this belief tend to hold back their emotions and feelings, for fear of being judged by others, rejected or humiliated in any way, which is a great threat.

However, these people tend to become unsympathetic, cynical, withdrawn, diantaneous, or have difficulty relating to people.

5. I don't have the opportunities

Another very common excuse to avoid doing something or trying something new, after all, if you think you don't have the ideal opportunities and the perfect time, why bother doing it? Yes, it will surely be impossible to achieve it. However, sometimes it is necessary to find our own opportunities instead of waiting for them to magically fall from the sky. It is necessary to bear in mind that "the perfect moment" does not exist, if you want to do something, find out what you need and do it now.

6. Life is very unfair

We do not have the right conditions because life is very hard, but we have news for you, life is as you perceive it. In this sense, if you think he is an executioner, then you will see everywhere a punishment cell And in that way you will not be able to arise even if you think you are trying, since you are putting yourself the biggest obstacle of all.

7. I have no time left

Many people have the firm belief that if they fail to achieve or achieve a certain goal at a certain age, then they never have the ability to do so. Who said this was so? There is no time limit for you to start doing what you have always wanted, you just need the motivation to want to achieve it.

After all, you've probably heard the famous saying "it's never too late to start."

8. I will always stay where I am

This is what we talked about previously about staying in the comfort zone, which may seem the most convenient environment to function, considering the own abilities that you think you have. Then this will prevent you from having the possibility to grow, even in that which you are good, just because of the fear of thinking that it cannot be done.

Do you think you can go from being good to being excellent?

9. Relationships are harder now

Although there are greater challenges today to have an intimate relationship with someone, because there are those who prefer to have a casual relationship or looking for a different path from yours, the secret to overcome this is communication and that is precisely the fault in this case. People who always excuse themselves in not improving the quality of their relationship, in not dare to go out or in believing that none person is suitable (and vice versa) it is usually because they have problems communicating, as well as solving conflicts.

10. I need a partner to be happy

A big mistake! To be happy in a relationship and make someone else happy, it is first necessary to be able to be happy on our own, since our own happiness only depends on us and on no one else. If you go with this fixed belief into a relationship, then you may be more unhappy than anything else, because you will always have a distorted idea of ​​happiness.

11. Why fix me if no one will notice me?

Why do you have to look good to please someone? It is true that we want to manage to get a positive response from a person, but this does not it is always the case, since self-care is just a reflection of feeling good about ourselves themselves. This is only a pretext to justify a failure, when it is due to little interaction, opening up with a person and low self-esteem.

12. I don't know if I'm ready / ready

Think for a moment, are we really ever completely ready? The answer is no. We are never completely ready to face something, because the experience is achieved through practice and if you do not start doing it, you will not be able to obtain a favorable result or learn to to get it.

13. This can wait

As people do not feel ready, they put that wish in the box of "I will do it later" or "there will be time for this", we know that there is no rush to achieve a goal. But leaving it for later can become a tendency to procrastinate, for fear of having some kind of failure or failure.

14. I don't know what my purpose in life is

Very few people know their life purpose at an early age and follow a plan regarding it, but failure to do so is completely common and there is nothing wrong with it, since your purpose is only yours and nobody else's, so it is up to you to work on discovering it and reaching until the.

But how to find out? You must first change the belief from ignoring your purpose to seeking your purpose, then start practicing. different things until you find something that you are passionate about and finally, study everything you need to improve yourself in that.

15. I better save it for myself

People with great insecurity problems may feel that their opinion or point of view on an issue is not worth being shared, because it is not good enough or interesting enough to be known by others, so it is better to keep it under wrench. This means that people cannot know the real scope of their potentialities and they will feel more and more withdrawn.

16. They sure are better than me

One of the reasons why people are also silent about sharing their opinions, as well as preferring to stay behind in Instead of making their presence known, it is because they have the mistaken but sure belief that others around them can do much better than they can. Which can bring repercussions about submissions, manipulations or feelings of inferiority.

17. I am somewhat useless

The thoughts of personal worthlessness is also a very common limiting belief and affects people who have this perception of themselves, since it is thought that they always ruin everything. This belief acts as a double edge, on the one hand to stay in the comfort zone, since it is the only place where it can ‘be of any use’ and as a justification to avoid working on its problems.

18. I don't have that much value

Feeling that we do not deserve something is the same as feeling useless to get something, since he perceives himself as a worthless person and therefore, he deserves everything bad that happens around him or worse, generates actions so that everything in his life looks negative to himself themselves.

19. I am not pessimistic, I am realistic

Another clear example of limiting beliefs are pessimistic thoughts, after all, how is it possible to be encouraged to experience something if you believe that everything will go wrong? So they prefer to go with a defeated attitude so that failure is expected. When this thought is very common, it becomes something that is part of the day to day.

20. The others are guilty of what happens to me

Although some people claim that everything bad that happens around them is due to their cause or their little courage, these people believe that the actions of those around them are the cause of their failure. Either because they retain him, because they are unfair or because they believe they have him envy, when it is completely false.

21. If it were otherwise

‘If I had more money’ ‘if I had studied such a thing’ ‘if I had not made that decision’ ‘if I had a better chance’. The past only helps us in one way: by teaching us, all the consequences of our actions leave us a learning to improve, but they are never an excuse to retain us or prevent us from continuing to seek our road.

22. Success is impossible without the right circumstances

Again, the perfect moment does not exist, it is a fallacy to justify the fear of facing something unknown, so it is preferable to postpone until the ideal opportunity arrives. But when is that ideal opportunity? Many success stories come from the uphill struggle of those who made it, rather than being a gift. So what are you waiting for?

23. It is useless to give everything

Why strive if nothing is going to improve? The only way to grow is by working on it, reinforce our skills and keep a high spirits. In this way it is possible to face obstacles successfully, but if we restrict ourselves and have a negative attitude will not obtain a favorable result, then the path will seem that it is not worth the pain.

Do you usually have a belief that is limiting you?