Why am I always unlucky?

Indeed, Perhaps you are pedantry when trying to answer a question that is difficult to answer; but anyway I want to do it because it is one of the questions that I am asked most in the consultation. Why am I so unlucky? What have I done to make things so bad for me?

Knowing good and bad luck

If many times this question torments your mind and you do not know why you attract bad luck, then you will have the subjective feeling that everything is going wrong for you, or that you have very bad fario. You keep hitting rock bottom, everything seems to be getting worse and you can hardly lift your head, it's like you have a damn magnet For the negative things in life, all the options that life presents you are either insufficient or become too much dark. The stars are aligned against you... What have I done to deserve this?you exclaim helplessly.

This feeling of being a passive and powerless bystander in the face of life's relentless misfortunes must be a real torture, right? You must feel like a voodoo doll, desperate at the stabs of human existence.

The vice of blaming bad luck

Nevertheless, believing that you are always unlucky can become your worst vice. Trying to convince yourself of this is to find the ideal justification for not leaving that indifference towards life, and that, dear readers... can lead to depression, since if everything that happens is the cause of fate, chance or karma (whatever it is to deceive yourself), why the hell to fight? Much more comfortable to resign and do nothing.

Do not despair, deep down you know that you have an alternative, you know that that happy feeling of doom that takes hold of you may be, partially, a product of your own psyche. Consequently, you have the power to modify those negative thoughts that eat you up inside.

Changing beliefs to attract success and luck

Success is not achieved with good luck, it is the direct result of constant effortIn fact luck does not exist and if it exists it does not depend on us, then we only have our own will to power for what we can transform.

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Let's explore it, let's try to explain what is the reason for thinking that one has bad luck, to give some simple tools and be able to face it.

1. The fantasy of eternal stability

Possibly, when you have lived a good streak you have not been fully aware of that unreal illusion that tells you that that good trend is going to last forever, something that you took for granted. Nothing is eternal (and that is a physical principle against which we cannot do anything) but our mind tries to create a metaphysical reality where time does not pass and everything remains immovable, as if it were a cartoon where all the characters are happy forever.

Indeed, you think that the party will never end but suddenly everything ends and you stay there, perplexed and confused.

Solution? I do not have a magic wand that allows me to solve the problem at once, but since our entire existence is one cyclical dynamics (although events are never repeated in the same way) the sensible thing to do would be to add to our vocabulary the concept of finitude. Life will always be in constant change, the good and the bad will take turns, although at certain times you believe that everything remains static and permanent.

So I suggest that every time that "everything goes wrong" or "I'm very unlucky" comes to mind, don't take yourself so literally or give those thoughts so much importance.

2. Control locus

The Control locus external is a term widely used in psychology; This is to say that when you run into problems head-on, you have a tendency to believe that they have little or no relationship to your behavior. Therefore, you attribute the cause of these difficulties to bad luck, with the logical result of experiencing a feeling of helplessness and despair that causes you to think "I'm always unlucky, I'm a bloody bastard!"

Opportunely, you forget that you have a choice about the circumstances around you, that destiny is not determined and that you have a lot to do. You have to focus on what is up to you. Realize the relationship between your behaviors and the outside world. Take charge of your destiny!

3. Selective view of events

When you think that the God of misfortune has taken it with you, you are reviewing the experiences more unpleasant events that you have had in your life and discarding looking at positive experiences, which surely have also been many. Do not misunderstand, I am not saying that such misfortunes do not exist but that you are leaving the rest of experiences in the background.

Solution? Take another point of view. Attention is selective, and you decide where you focus and what aspects you want to focus on. Try the opposite exercise from what you usually do. Make a list of all those moments in which you have felt happy. Have a more global and objective vision of your life without lamenting so much about the misfortunes that you have had to live.

4. The keys

• You are forgetting the times that destiny has shown you its sweetest face.

• Not everything is random, there are things that are determined only by you, therefore you have room for maneuver.

• Everything is constantly changing: creation and destruction. What is black today turns white tomorrow, and so on. Never forget!