Self-abuse and its relationship with self-esteem
A high percentage of the world's population is continuously self-treating, either based on the opinions of others, or when things do not go as expected and / or worked.
This is accepted in our society because it is confused with self-demand and achievement, as well as a desire to excel.
The difference lies in how we treat and evaluate ourselves based on the results of our actions, or, the behavior and opinions of others of us.
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The tendency to self-abuse
Self-esteem, self-respect, are the capacities to love and value ourselves, whether we are successful or not. It is about trusting us and knowing how to forgive ourselves despite our mistakes, and do not doubt or mistreat ourselves because of the opinions of others.
- Has it happened to you that they express a negative opinion of you and not only believe it but also crush yourself about it?
- How do you feel when things don't go the way you expected?
- Do you compare yourself with other people? What do you think about it?
- Do you feel that you are worse or do you always do things worse than others?
- Are you obsessed with not achieving what others achieve?
The key is in how we face obstacles and how we talk to ourselves. In saying "I have failed" versus "I am a failure"
The self-abuse that we do when our self-esteem fails us, is worked successfully through unconditional self-esteem. Also through our internal dialogue, because we become our worst enemies.
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What can be done?
Applying the appropriate therapeutic strategies and techniques, we can make a person change aggressive and unfair judgments towards himself to achieve a full and healthy life.
People continually come to me with poor self-esteem and intense self-abuse, which affects them by blocking their behavior and preventing them from enjoying all the good events that do happen in their lives, making interpersonal relationships difficult adequate.
Why should you work on your self esteem?
Those are the main reasons why it is important to seek professional help faced with these kinds of problems.
- To feel less fear of failure, of facing problems, of the opinion of others.
- To avoid being ashamed of oneself.
- To face your mistakes in an appropriate way and to correct them.
- To be able to love others in a healthy way and accept you without self-treatment.
- Although sometimes we cannot avoid feeling bad, we can prevent that feeling from blocking us, and face obstacles in an appropriate way.
Whatever your situation, the most important person in your life is you. Y you can't deliver the best version of you if you don't accept yourself and you love yourself in a fair way. Unconsciously, you will be treating others as you treat yourself, or in a distorted based on the judgment and approval you expect from others, belittling you and punishing you excessively.
It is terrible to live with constant self-reproach, or always on the defensive. Seek help and don't be ashamed of it. Success is not always doing things right, but in our attitude towards ourselves and life, and our way of facing problems. If you are looking for psychotherapeutic support, I invite you to get in touch with me.
