Do you want to have a completely happy relationship?

Getting a stable, healthy and happy relationship is possible. In couples' mediation sessions, it is very common to find a series of common links that lead to discomfort and the desire for the dissolution of the couple.

For this reason, many couples go to mediation to try to find solutions and help in this crucial part of our lives. That is why I give you a series of keys to achieve it.

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Moving towards a happy couple relationship

These are the most important keys to keep in mind so that the emotional bond of the relationship remains strong.

1. There are no perfect relationships

This is the first key concept that we are going to work on. All relationships have their weaknesses. There is no perfect relationship.

Demystifying that concept will make you free to work on your own happiness, as the important thing about a couple is not their problems but rather wanting to face them. And this is the first key to success, not having an idealized image of the relationship and outside of all logical and achievable reality.

2. You exist and you must have a space outside of your partner

Take control of your life. Your happiness depends on you. Having your own space is essential, loving yourself too.

Your happiness can only be created by you; Therefore, if you generate the dependence of your state of mind with your partner, you will enslave yourself on an emotional and behavioral level, being able to cancel yourself completely and renounce your happiness.

3. Define the relationship you really want

Once you have made yourself free with the two previous keys, define how you can and want to be as a couple. What are you willing to give and consent and what do you expect in a logical and realistic way. Set boundaries for both parties.

4. Communication

No one can read our thoughts. Trying to draw conclusions without being certain of it, generates irrational thoughts and away from reality that will make us suffer without meaning. Show empathy and actively listen.

In those points in which they need to negotiate, summarize what you have understood, without acrimony by either party and always, trying to reach agreements thus avoiding discussions. It is your partner, not your enemy or foe.

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5. Ask for forgiveness and forgive

Living without rancor makes us free. Try to understand your partner better, and avoid being defensive. Welcome their tokens of repentance and reconciliation. And if you can't, if you're always expecting the worst, analyze yourself. Is it worth always being like this? Why are you like this? Can it be solved?

6. Accept the differences

It doesn't matter what differentiates you as a couple, it matters what unites you. Whatever they are, negotiate and establish a relationship of equality where each of the parties gives in to make the other happy. If one always yields in favor of the other, an imbalance occurs that in the long run is not sustainable or healthy.

7. Quality time together

It is very important that you spend time with your happy partner. Doing something that you both like and enjoy. A scheduled time to pamper yourself, take care of yourself, laugh, love yourself. Once a week, a month, when they can, but you have to create that time and space that will unite them and make them strong to face the bad times.

8. Practice gratitude

Yes, a gesture as simple as thanking and acknowledging what the other has done well, is something that fades over time. We stop giving thanks from the heart, and we stop valuing certain gestures, attitudes, behaviors... because we already understand it as part of the routine and we stop giving it importance.

9. Love without conditions

Don't put limits on your love. You cannot be in that constant struggle; Either you accept your partner or you don't. Being in constant war will lead to chronic exhaustion and the death of the relationship.

Set the limits, deny them, stick to them, and from there, relax and enjoy. Everything can be solved if both parties are in balance.

10. Confidence

This is the ultimate key. Trust. If there are no reasons not to do it, there are no reasons to live with distrust. Demand it in the same way for you. If both parties respect the agreements of the relationship, they can live and let live.

Conclution

Remember, a healthy and happy couple is one where respect, balance and trust are present. There will always be problems, it's about solving them together. It's about helping each other above all else.

Never allow physical or emotional abuse, abuse of any kind, disrespect, or controlling behaviors. Couples are the sum of two people with their own identity, who, although they share many things, must continue to respect their individual roles that do not affect the welfare of the same, and where each one can continue to develop and have their own space.

Would you like to go deeper? Do you feel that you need help in this regard? contact me, we will get you to have the relationship you want.