How to regain control of your life, in 8 keys

When you realize that the hell where you are (like the one I detailed in a previous article) is not what you want and you start to distance yourself and move away, there are several things you could do to recover those resources and strengths that we all have; that which allows us to move forward and re-float from the well in which we are immersed, recovering with more strength and firmness all our potential, our internal power.

What will make it easier for us, at last, to rise from the ashes and reinvent ourselves.

Taking back control of your life

These are some of the elements that can help us gain greater autonomy:

1. Return to your origins

You will realize how the people who love you and that at some point you had left behind, your parents, siblings, friends... they are expectant, waiting, eager to offer you a space, to be able to help you and provide that support that allows you to walk towards go ahead. Don't be afraid to knock on their door, because they are waiting for you to take that step.

2. Take walks in the mountains or in the countryside

Nature has a powerful stress-reducing effect, calms the nervous system, restores attention… Its contact has a moderating effect, it allows us to feel our interior deeply and enter a state of peace that in these moments is what you really need.

3. Tell someone important to you about your experiences

Do not deny what you have lived, do not minimize the damage suffered. That will allow you to get rid of that burden and feel complicity with the other again. In addition, opening your heart and sharing your experiences and the pain that some of them have generated will make it easier for you to look at yourself in a sweeter, more subtle and kind mirror to yourself, and put each scene in its place, cleanse and heal memories and experiences.

4. Seek professional help

So that you can come to understand everything you have experienced, what led you to that situation and what should you do and know about yourself so as not to repeat it? In this way you can reestablish yourself and release accumulated suffering, the feeling of loss due to broken illusions, guilt, anger, frustration... It is also necessary that you take responsibility for your life and your decisions, by that I mean that you are the owner of yourself yourself, the roads you travel, how you relate to the environment, how you react to the events that happen to you ...

Assume the consequences that derive from them, that will allow you to better manage your life and your experiences, it will give you power over yourself. And, if there is something in your way of acting that you do not like or causes you stress or confusion: work it, learn new ways, modify it.

5. Learn to meditate

For example with Mindfulness, Focusing, Chi Kung (or whatever meditation technique you feel comfortable with). It will help you keep intrusive and negative thoughts that arise out of control. Practicing mindfulness will make it easier for you to be in the here and now., not to project excessively into the future, nor to get hooked on the memories of the past. These tools favor states of serene calm and help you enjoy the present moment, allowing you to see each moment in all its splendor.

6. Look for activities that are meaningful

Things that you like to do and give you great satisfaction. Paint, dance, write, sing…. The arts have the honor and peculiarity of allowing us to explore the emotional world and transform it almost without realizing it!

7. Give yourself a gift

Get a massage, go to a spa, buy yourself something you like…. How long has it been since you spent a moment to yourself? How long has it been since you took care of yourself, that you did not pamper yourself? Observe yourself!

8. Allow yourself a tribute

You have taken a very important step with powerful implications for yourself and your near future. You should allow yourself to celebrate it properly to turn the page completely; rituals have the ability to transmit importance and transform acts, elevate them, give them connotations of reality and strength. Go out to dinner in a place that you like, or consider a special trip, if it can be with friends, so that you can once again feel the wonder of sharing life and experiences with others. So you can close the circle, seal that stage and open another with all the honors!

Bibliographic references:

• Riveros, E. (2015). “Focusing from the heart and towards the heart. A guide for personal transformation ”, ed. Desclée de Brouwer.
• Bucay, J. (2010). "The path of self-reliance", Grijalbo.