5 signs that warn us that a person is insecure

Surely it has happened to you at some time: you meet a person, you start talking about any topic and, suddenly, you notice that discomfort invades the conversation.

At this time, it is normal for you to feel that you are the one causing the discomfort in the other person.

Insecure people: inferiority complex or simple shyness?

Until the moment you start talking to that person, everything was perfect: you had a good day, you felt good about yourself. But from the moment you notice the discomfort with the conversation you are having, certain doubts begin to arise about your appearance, your language body, your ability to communicate... In principle, the person in front of you has an impeccable image, a good position in your company and great gifts communicative. But he has the particularity of wanting to show everyone how well life is going, be it in a relaxed context or in a business meeting.

Before these people, it is not uncommon for us to feel very small, insignificant, overwhelmed by their personal stories that show us that, apparently, they are people with magnificent lives.

Inferiority complex: a concept developed by Adler

The psychology behind the attitude shown by these people was developed by the Austrian psychoanalyst Alfred Adler, who proposed the concept of Inferiority complex. In Adler's own words, people with an inferiority complex tend to spend a lot of time efforts to overcompensate through what Adler calls the "fight for superiority".

Insecure people who do not know how to manage their insecurity they may try to feel happy by making the people around them unhappy. Adler adds that this incessant struggle to feel superior is one of the most obvious signs of neurosis.

Obviously, not all insecure people are neurotic. Sometimes insecure individuals channel this characteristic through withdrawal or shyness. In fact, they tend to be the majority, but in this post we are going to pay more attention to the insecure with the inferiority complex that Adler described.

5 signs that tell us that we are facing an insecure person

Next we will explain the different indicators and signals that can warn us that we are dealing with an insecure person... and with an inferiority complex.

1. May try to make you feel insecure about yourself

In the case of people with an inferiority complex, it is quite common for them to start questioning you and making you feel bad. Most often, they are not particularly rude or rude; if they make you feel bad it is because, precisely, they show a false cordiality. It is also common for people with an inferiority complex to try to let you know their achievements and virtues at all costs. If you normally feel good about yourself but start to doubt your worth when you're around certain people, they may be projecting their fears and insecurities onto you.

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2. He needs to show you his worth and achievements

It is not an essential condition that you feel insecure when you talk to a person to conclude that that person is projecting their complex on you. Individuals who continually flaunt their education, lifestyle, personal and work accomplishments, and perfect family, they may try to convince themselves that they are outstanding and valuable people.

3. Frequently uses false modesty

False modesty is one of the ways insecure people use to show off their accomplishments. For example, you may have noticed that you have a contact on social networks who usually complains about all the trips he has to do, but who what he really wants to show is that he has an important job.

4. Is often critical repeatedly

People who have a permanent feeling of inferiority tend to show that they have refined tastes and high expectations about everything around them. In fact, many times they are crossed out assnobs, because they are very critical of all cultural products that they believe are not up to par. They use this strategy not only to give an image of special people but also as a method to evaluate themselves.

5. Beware, there are insecure people worth knowing

Not all insecure people have an inferiority complex. Therefore, there are people who feel insecure because they are shy, or because the social situation (context) of the interaction causes them a bit of discomfort. To converse with these people, make sure you are nice and light-hearted, that it does not appear that you are questioning or examining them. If you create a good rapport With them it is likely that they will open up to you and you can have a most pleasant interaction.