Do you consider yourself the gili of your class? 4 reasons not to worry

Do you consider yourself the gili of your class? Today we give you 4 reasons not to worry.

Bullying in class: what to do when others treat you badly

The bullying it is a sadly current reality in the educational landscape. Today we will not focus on the reasons in which these abusers appear, but on the reasons to maintain hope for those who suffer that verbal or physical violence that, to put it in a less dramatic word, they can feel silly and be victims of those who in the future will be social misfits.

In delinquency psychology, it is studied that adolescents who as adults will have problems with social adaptation survive in school and institute to their lack of resources in social skills with two strategies. They are as follows.

What do bullies do to make you feel like a dick?

1. Physically or verbally assaulting other kids

Their weaknesses (lack of communication resources, a hostile family environment, low selfsteem) cause them to have to seek superiority with violence. The recipients of these attacks do not have to follow any pattern other than that of not being part of their group. That can make you feel like a dick.

2. Get together with individuals with the same needs

Subjects who will have adult adaptation problems due to their weaknesses get together at school and institute and form a hard core. If you are not part of a group they will try to hurt you by making you feel alone and apart. That can make you feel like a dick.

If you are one of those people who suffers from the lack of social skills of violent individuals who attack to defend their insecurity, there are four reasons to remain hopeful. It's a tough process, but you can stop being harassed.

Because bullying is a real problem and suffering it does not make you a dick, it only makes you a person who has to face an unfair, undeserved conflict and who can help you to be stronger. Here are four reasons why you shouldn't lose hope.

Being a victim of bullying is not the end: reasons for optimism

Asking for help makes you stronger

One of the skills you learn over the years is to ask for help. A mature and confident person himself is not afraid to assume that he has a problem and that that problem may be affecting or overcoming him momentarily. Do not be afraid to disappoint or worry your environment. You are not responsible for what is happening and your environment is precisely for cases like these.

The social support network will help you in different directions. First, it will make you feel heard and cared for, so the lonely feeling it will fade little by little. They can also advise you on the way forward to solve the problem or with whom to contact.

Yes or yes, seek the support of adults, to be able to be family members. Their experience and resources will help to find solutions to the conflict. If you do not find that support in your family, do not hesitate to look for a person in charge of the center where you study.

Social skills can be developed

On many occasions, the feeling of weakness in the face of conflicts is marked by a lack of social skills. To be successful at a social level, it is necessary to have those skills that help us manage conflicts or have social success that makes us avoid those conflicts. The good news is that those skills can be learned. Your own experiences will help you improve them, but if you want to change and have them well developed, there is even better news.

Do not say what bothers you, that the shyness It prevents you from expressing yourself freely, the excessive fear of not fitting in with the group, the ingenuity to express yourself with humor... soft skills are learnedAmong other things, psychologists and coaches help to develop these skills so that you can face your social life with more security.

Valued traits change over time

As we said, all the studies on Crime Psychology and Antisocial Behavior show that children and adolescents with aggressive behaviors or too dominant are those that will have adaptation problems in the future.

During adolescence, strength, aggressiveness and intolerance may seem the most valued traits. But in a few years, in adult society that rewards the values ​​of sensitivity, intelligence, empathy, resourcefulness, originality... Your traits that during adolescence may seem like a weakness will become some of your main goods.

Everything that now makes you feel different will turn in your favor and consolidate itself as a pillar of your social identity. Don't be afraid to be different. They try to look the same to each other because they are afraid to be themselves. You are you. And that makes you very lucky.

What seems irreversible today will be a memory tomorrow

When we are in the middle of a conflict or a problem, continued anxiety activates our metabolism and we secrete hormones at a very high rate. Our brain works twice or triple what it should work. That feeling of activation causes us a focus on problems and we believe that our life will always be like this.

Well, when you are celebrating your birthday you will realize that throughout our lives we face hundreds of situations that we believe are definitive... and then they are not so. When you leave him with a partner, you change jobs... we always believe that this change is final. And then it becomes one more memory. Life is constantly changing and dozens of very positive chapters await you. Trust that they will arrive.