Why is it important to know how to manage emotions?

Emotions are often spoken of as if they were psychological elements totally beyond our control; events that influence us unilaterally, but cannot be affected by our decisions.

Thus, we assume that emotions are something similar to meteorological phenomena: they are there and not we could conceive of life without them, but at the same time before their existence we can only adopt a role passive.

However, this is a mistake. It is true that we cannot handle everything that makes us feel emotionally at will, and we are not capable of totally suppressing emotions, as if they had never occurred. However, we have significant leeway both in terms of how they appear in our minds, and also in terms of what they lead us to do and feel. Therefore, it is important to become aware of how important it is to develop and hone these kinds of emotional management skills.

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What is the importance of promoting emotional management in oneself?

These are the day-to-day aspects in which having developed good emotional management skills makes all the difference.

1. Helps us avoid unnecessary conflicts

With the ability to manage our emotional side well, there is also expertise in detecting situations in which If we are not careful we can end up getting into a fight of egos that will only make us lose and that does not lead to nothing.

2. It predisposes us not to deviate from our projects

Knowing how to manage our emotions well implies not giving in to impulses easily, which is more likely to we are good at prioritizing long-term goals over those less important but tempting in the short term term.

3. Makes it possible to transform frustration into strategy changes

Many people get frustrated and just throw in the towel, taking a pessimistic outlook on what one can do. However, if we manage to manage our emotions well, those feelings of frustration or even disappointment and sadness can be engines of self-improvement, taking advantage of them to adopt another perspective from which to continue advancing through strategies and priorities different.

4. Makes relationships more fluid

Good management of emotions is also reflected in our way of relating to others on a day-to-day basis, and above all, in our non-verbal language. It makes us more spontaneous, since we do not feel that we have to adopt "artificial" strategies to give an image that can lead us to be accepted.

5. Helps us understand others

Not everything has to do with self-centered introspection; managing emotions also makes it easier for us to recognize emotional states in others and act accordingly, which makes it possible both to empathize more and better and to reach new points of meeting.

6. Makes self-motivation possible

Without the ability to manage emotions, there is no possibility of motivating oneself. And the latter is key, especially at the beginning of a process in which we want to adopt a new habit or we are facing a new project.

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7. Lets develop leadership skills

All the skills that we have seen previously have to do, to a greater or lesser extent, with leadership skills. It should be noted that these do not matter only if in our work we have a position associated with the supervision of teams: we can be leaders in many other informal contexts: sports, communication, family dynamics, etc.

Do you want to learn more about emotional management?

If you are interested in connecting better with your most emotional side, You may be interested in the training program "School of Emotions", developed by the European School of Coaching. With a remote mode based on the use of the synchronous classroom, with live broadcasting, it offers the possibility of accessing 15 online conferences (one a week) and to participate in practical exercises, all with technical support constant.

School of Emotions proposes to all types of profiles to discover the power of our emotional world as it is still a pending subject for many of us. Strengthening emotional management skills is very important, since it has a positive impact on both our autonomy and the ability to achieve happiness, as well as on our personal relationships.

Thus, this program aims to facilitate that attendees develop the psychological tools necessary to know how to recognize and modulate emotions taking into account the context and their personal or group objectives in the different areas of life, including the private and the professional. Its start date is March 5, 2021; To learn more, access the website of the European Coaching School.

Bibliographic references:

• Cornelius, R. (1996). The science of emotion. New Jersey: Prentice Hall.
• Goleman, D. (1998). Working with Emotional Intelligence. New York: Bantam Books.
• Roberts, R. (2003). Emotions: An Essay in Aid of Moral Psychology. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press.
• Salmurri, F. (2015). Reason and emotion: resources for learning and teaching to think. Barcelona: RBA
• Vallès, A., and Vallès, C. (2000): Emotional intelligence: Educational applications. Madrid, Editorial EOS.