How to overcome a break of couple?

How to overcome a break of couple? This is an issue that worries many people who suffer from past love crises.

Let's see what can be done to recover from this emotional blow.

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The end of love relationships is frequent

Today it is rare to meet someone and to stay in their relationship forever; the most common is to have several partners throughout life.

On the other hand, the negative emotional experience lived when breaking up with the previous person with whom we had a romantic relationship can weigh heavily on us. And sometimes that prevents us from even enjoying new relationships after the breakup.

For this reason, a significant number of people have suffered a love breakup, and the suffering and The pain that this has generated in them makes them afraid of the possibility of starting a new relationship with their partner.

The complicated period of facing the duel for a sentimental breakup It causes that in some cases people have insurmountable difficulties to overcome the feeling of loss and thus be able to start another relationship again.

How to overcome a break of couple

Not being able to overcome the loss after a sentimental failure, the hatred felt, as well as the fears that are generated that they could happen to us again, can block us. Is what happens when it is believed that the best thing to avoid having a bad time and suffering again is not to have a relationship again.

The consequence of a couple breakdown is that loneliness and pain can significantly affect our intellectual functioning, reaching that, temporarily, our ability is diminished cognitive. In such a situation we will not be able to regulate emotions well or to think clearly.

1. Don't confuse distractions with psychological recovery

Often after a breakup, people They can start in fortuitous relationships that last a short time and come to nothing, since the mourning for the previous breakup has not yet been healthyly digested and it is still too early for the loving couple to find a new place in him or her.

For this reason, these continuous small disappointments or failures can make them live with discomfort, even thinking that they will never have a relationship like they had with their ex again. Arriving at this point is a mistake.

2. You need to manage emotional pain

There is a saying that feeds a false myth that is ineffective: “a nail is pulled out with another nail”. Normally intense positive emotions are experienced in relationships, and therefore the pain we feel after the loss in the grieving process is necessary.

As much as we want to avoid the discomfort that the breakup supposesIf we do not live that pain and suffer it, it will be difficult to have a new healthy relationship.

The person must be patient and allow himself adjusting to his new life. The main thing is to find well-being by overcoming the suffering and pain caused in the previous relationship.

You have to live those emotions of pain and suffering and not try to block them by having other relationships; this will surely not be the best way to overcome the duel.

3. Understand what happened

The data from the studies show that people who have suffered a romantic failure, In order to overcome the breakup, they must understand the reasons why the relationship broke up.

4. Do not give in to the temptation to try to get it back

Research shows that emotional breakdown activates the same mechanisms in the brain as those of a drug addict who is abstinent from the toxins to which he is addicted. Thus, we could say that when the couple breaks up, the person goes through a period of abstinence.

When we become heartbroken, we cannot ignore it. The healthy thing is to recognize and prevent the need we feel to contact or spy on social networksWith this we would be feeding the addiction, further enhancing the pain and delaying our recovery.

5. Don't romanticize the past

A love break will lead us to idealizing thoughts of the broken relationship. We must compensate for this by remembering his bad gesture and not just his smile, how bad he put us through, the fact that you argued frequently and heatedly and spent days without speaking to each other, etc.

Therefore, to overcome a couple breakup, I advise my patients to do a detailed list of all the times the ex misbehaved to yourself, of all its negative characteristics, of all its hobbies, and that they have this list at hand (for example, on the mobile).

Our brain will tell us that he or the ex was perfect or perfect. But that's not the case, and neither was the relationship. And if you want to overcome it, you must remember it frequently.

Coping with a breakup is not easy

Getting over the breakup is a struggle, and the reasons you broke up are your best weapons. There is nothing that can suppress the pain you feel. Therefore, do not look for more explanations, accept the ones you already have and stop wondering more, since you need to close the wound to overcome the addiction.

You also need something else: you must be willing to let go, to accept that it's over. If not, you will be feeding your mind with false hopes and it will be a setback in your overcoming the duel. Keep in mind that hope can become absolutely destructive when we go through a romantic breakup.