8 keys to know if your partner is unfaithful and cheats on you

Being faithful to your partner is, without a doubt, one of the basic pillars of a relationship. When trust is lost due to infidelity, it is difficult to get back to being well and for the relationship to work.

However, complicated is not the same as impossible, so some couples overcome this bump and manage to regain stability again.

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We are increasingly unfaithful

Scientific studies show that infidelities are on the rise, especially in the case of women. According to a recent article in El Confidencial, one in three women cheat on their partner. This Spanish newspaper, with this news, echoed a study carried out by the French Institute of Public Opinion (IFOP).

The research included a sample of 3,406 subjects, who were evaluated based on their motivations, their disposition and the resistance they imposed on adultery. And the fact is that the figures do not stop growing in terms of female infidelity. In 1970, only 10% of women claimed to have been unfaithful; in 2001, 24%, and in 2016, 33%

. The case of men, the infidelity percentage It is similar to the latter, although the rate of infidelity has not varied so much in recent decades.

Summer, time of infidelities

As you can see, infidelity is going to increase, but not at all times of the year we are equally unfaithful. A survey carried out by the Second Lives portal, specialized in finding partners to infidelities, he has also been in charge of demonstrating the relationship between summer and relationships extramarital.

The results showed that during this time of year the search for lovers increases by 40%. The survey had 92% of the page's users, and They affirmed that in the summer they have more time and feel freer to commit an infidelity.

Causes of infidelity

Likewise, in an article published in Infobae, the psychologist Adriana Guraieb says that: “on vacation there are longer, bodies are more visible in the sun and alcohol can help to talk more infidelities. However, alcohol is not a reason for infidelity, but rather a facilitator in the sense that it disinhibits and encourages those hidden sexual desires to come out. "

Having said that, What causes infidelities? Well, there are many reasons that can lead a partner to be unfaithful. Three of the most important are these:

• Communication problems: good communication or empathy They can help to resolve conflicts and, therefore, there is greater trust in the members of the couple. Poor communication encourages infidelity because conflict can cause couples to look outside for what they can't find in their relationship.
• Monotony: Other times it may be the monotony and wear and tear caused by routine that leads one of the two members of the couple to want to have sex outside of the relationship.
• Differences in the desire to have sex: there are people who are more passionate and fiery than others. Some can go long periods without sex and others not.

How to know if your partner is cheating on you

Infidelities in relationships are frequent. However, they don't always end up knowing. Detecting an unfaithful partner is difficult, unless the person committing adultery leaves very obvious clues or is caught at that moment and cannot deny it. In fact, most infidelity goes unnoticed or unproven, because the rules of the game tend to favor cheats.

But it is possible to know a series of signs that could indicate that something is happening outside the relationship. When I say "something may happen" I mean that these keys are not 100% infallible, and the behaviors that your partner shows may be due to other reasons, which should not be ruled out. So to be as objective as possible it is necessary to make a global assessment taking into account what the person is like and what the situation is, and of course, do not accuse anyone if there is no reliable evidence that fidelity is occurring.

These are the keys that could indicate that an infidelity is taking place.

1. Visible signs

It turns out that you are doing the laundry and your partner's shirt and it gives off a strong smell of women's perfume; your partner comes home with a lipstick stain on his neck or comes home from work with unkempt hair. These can be telltale signs that something may have happened. Now, a single occasion is not enough to doubt someone. Different would be if this happens repeatedly.

2. Change of habits

You know your partner perfectly because you have lived together for many years. But he has been behaving strangely for a few months and has adopted habits that he did not have before. For example, he checks his smartphone every day before going to bed and spends hours hooked on the device when he leaves work. On top of that, when you ask him who he talks to so much with, he avoids answering you, is tense and hides conversations from you.

3. Doesn't know who answers or their stories don't match

Not only is he tense or hiding conversations, but when you ask him a question, such as "what did you do when you left work?" you don't know what to answer or your explanations aren't convincing enough.

4. Gets defensive

And of course, you are surprised by his behavior, so you ask him something to clarify it. Instead of acting cool, knowing you have nothing to hideIt turns out that he gets angry and in the end avoids answering you. There is no reason to be like that, unless he is hiding something ...

5. Change in routine

Not only does he change his habits and way of acting, but he your routine seems to have changed. Now he has new hobbies, new hobbies, and you see where, he does not include you in any of his activities.

6. Many hours of work

Unfaithful people often use work as an excuse. If before he used to work his 8 hours a day, now he always leaves the job later, he even has to go on a trip with the company and now he also works on Saturdays... These are some indicators that can make you suspicious of their true intentions.

7. He wants to go everywhere alone

Your relationship may not be at its best, but he has never behaved in a way that avoided your presence in many situations. Now he prefers to be alone in the room or go anywhere alone. Obviously everyone needs their space, but this is not the reason for their attitude.

8. Pays excessive attention to their physical appearance

Pay close attention to their physical appearance, dress better, wear after shave every day and even returns to the gym despite having forgotten. He behaves the same as when he began the relationship with you, but that with time he seemed to have forgotten. This strange behavior may mean that you are trying to impress someone.