How to cultivate healthy habits to have a strong mind?

We all talk about balance, having a healthy body to have a healthy mind, but there is something more; have a really strong mind. To become someone who, no matter how much he falls, gets back up strengthened by what he has learned, although this A quality can also be seen in someone who cannot bear it all or who allows himself to feel what he feels without fear.

Having a strong mind is not being able to endure a lot of suffering, but be able to turn this suffering into something useful that invites us to overcome a problem and empowers us to do so. A mind prepared for adversity is one that allows us to stay focused on what matters despite adversity.

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Habits that help to have a strong mind

If we are so stressed that we do not think, we do not sleep and we just survive, little by little we lose the ability to think clearly and decide the steps to take. The "survival mode"It is very good to face extreme situations, but the" calm mode "is better to be able to make decisions that allow us to get out of those difficult situations.

Much is said about good habits, but little is done about them; they are part of those New Year's resolutions, after the holidays or after a period of excesses. Why is it so difficult for us to acquire healthy habits that allow us to have a strong mind? It's easy to blame laziness, lack of energy, or routine, and these may be the causes, but focus on that and limit ourselves to reproach us for things it just takes energy away from us.

What you need is be clear about what you want, know why you want it, know the obstacles that prevent you from moving forward and commit to your goal convinced of how important it is.

The first healthy habit to work on is how I face challenges, it is the first stone that provides a solid base on which to establish other new habits. I propose this 3-step method: clean, commit and act.

1. Clear your mind, get a calm mind

It is common to hear phrases like: "what I want is to be calm, I would be happy if I did not have this problem, when this happens I will be able to rest"... These phrases show that we feel that the situation is not under our control.

So the first thing is to know that to meet our wants or needs we need to flee from unattainable dreams or from wanting to change what does not depend on us. We have to listen to each other honestly and be realistic about what we want and what we can control.

By separating what we can control from what we can't, we stop fighting for what is not in our power and focus on what is, we regain control and we stop feeling helpless. We cannot control life or its ups and downs. The question is, therefore, to make yourself strong in the face of adversity; If you make your mind strong, you will see obstacles as a challenge that can be overcome and not as another problem that weighs you down and robs you of energy or limits you from being well. If we do not have a conducive external environment, we will have to work more internally to achieve that inner calm or peace.

Thus, we see that first we need to delve into our objective and see what things make us feel good about ourselves, that is, they calm us, make us feel strong, etc. Write the answer to this question: what is it that you need or want to achieve and what are the things that make you feel that way when you do them?

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2. Commit to what you want

Once we know what we need to get what we want and the obstacles have been identified we come to value the strength of our desire, the importance of this. Let's start from the hypothesis that we will take as true that "if you do not make an effort to achieve it, it will be that you do not want it so much." Let us decide to put our full potential at the service of our wishes.

You will be able to overcome vicious circles, negative or hopeless thoughts... How? Write step by step what you would do or should do to get what you want. Decide to assume that there is no other option because it is what you want and no one but you can stop you. Write down everything that hurts you or does not allow you to move forward, consider how to overcome each obstacle.

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3. Act with internal coherence to have peace

Part of the conflicts in our day to day are internal; When you don't live as you want, you don't feel how you want to feel, you don't do what he wants to do... This conflict, internal or external, is an alert that invites us to fight for what we want.

There are circumstances in which living coherently is difficult for us, and if we cannot resolve these circumstances, conflict is born.

So we see that after being clear about what we want and committing to that, Choosing a path focused on what we want and can achieve opens up new options.. This allows us to act, we will take steps to have a calm mind by acting not automatically, but in tune with what we want to achieve or with how we want to live. This does not prevent life from giving us setbacks, but it allows us to have a strong mind to face the obstacles that are presented to us.

If you are in the middle of a storm and you need to make decisions or for something to change, find a space, a place, a time to think calmly and start working on yourself; In this way, find the strength to decide to make the changes you need to have a calm mind and to better cope with difficulties.