Meditation to regain the connection with yourself

Meditation is a great ally that helps us to achieve a good relationship with our egoic part.

In this sense, the ego is a mental structure created basically to ensure our survival. It is a false personality that appears subtly and, in most situations, it is difficult to detect its appearance.

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Meditation and relationship with our "I"

When we were little we learned that, to receive love, we had to be or act in a specific way. For example, we may have encountered situations in which we were told; "If you don't finish everything on your plate, mom won't love you." Words are powerful, and although our family members may formulate these types of expressions to promote our growth, they can wreak havoc on our adult lives.

In the previous example we can see how maternal love, which should be unconditional, is conditioned by a behavior that the infant must perform. It is likely that in adulthood we will show altered behaviors in relation to food and that we repeat this pattern. For example, we can observe the consequences in the moment in which the adult eats compulsively without leaving a single crumb on the plate so that he feels that he is worthy of love.

This situation is just one example of the consequences of believing that we are not worthy of love for the mere fact of being. There are other cases in which the child learned that, to obtain the approval of his father, he had to be a student. excellent, and when he reaches adulthood it is possible that he remains conditioned, to some extent, by the learning that performed.

These situations are a generator of stress for the person and a breeding ground for them to believe frustrating situations for the individual, because he will surely perform certain actions that are conditioned by the fear of not receiving the love you think you deserve.

Another situation that usually occurs commonly is that of forcing the infant to be affectionate. For example, suppose that a family member visits the infant's home and that the mother says to the child: “Give your grandmother a kiss. Don't you want it?

Observing the message that this phrase hides, which at first glance seems totally harmless, we will realize that the mother is conditioning the way in which the infant should show love.

Probably when the child reaches adulthood, he will shower her partner with kisses to show her affection even when he does not really feel like it.

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There are no good or bad behaviors, but enhancers or limitations

Suppose that any of these situations has negative consequences for us; then, detecting what was the pattern that we learned as children to receive love can be of great help to modify these limiting behaviors.

The authentic personality is camouflaged by this character that we have created that, obviously, we need to be able to coexist in society. The key is to find the balance between the mask that we use to be able to relate socially and our true essence.

There are people who can get caught up in the strategies of the ego, causing great suffering in their lives. Sometimes we can find ourselves acting inconsistently and then it appears an internal struggle between what we think we should be and what we really consider ourselves to be.

Obviously, we must not pretend to destroy the egoic figure, but rather detect how it works to prevent it from This takes control of our lives, since really the ego is not negative, but appears to ensure our evolution.

The body retains the same intelligence as the mind, but we tend to identify more with the world of ideas; however, our beliefs do not define us and neither does the life experience that we are going through at this moment.

By identifying excessively with the environment or with the thoughts we have, we will be reducing the meaning of our existence. We anticipate what may happen in the future to try to prevent any threatening situation and that can generate discomfort associated with disconnection with our present.

The key is to realize when these thoughts negatively affect us, and increase our level of consciousness to be able to return to the present moment whenever we want.

Becoming aware of our entire being implies taking into account the three basic pillars that make it up: the mind, emotions and bodily sensations. While the mind is important, our ideas are no more relevant than the sensory world.

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The role of meditation

To live fully and connected with the present, we must begin to listen to each other at the bodily level. At first, it is normal for thoughts to divert our attention, preventing us from a deeper connection with our being. I propose that you do this practice that I am going to expose below so that you can verify in an experiential way what I am explaining.

Find a place where you can settle in to start the next meditation. Take a couple of deep breaths from your stomach and, when you feel ready, begin to become aware of the position of your body. You do not need to change its status, simply pay attention to the sensations that appear.

Observe if there is tension in any part of your body and also feel its temperature. Now the thoughts are turning into clouds that pass in front of you, and you are going to observe them without giving them importance. Whenever a thought appears that takes you away from focus, redirect the attention towards some part of your body.

You can help yourself by moving a limb or sliding a hand across your face, in this way you distract your mind and return the focus of attention to your body.

Take a few minutes to scan from head to toe and close your eyes to help connect with your body.

What sensations have you experienced?

This meditation can help you find the balance between the three parts that make up your being; the emotional, sensory and mental part.