Learn to love yourself: the path to a satisfying life

We know that a great driver in our life is love, but many times we do not understand what love really is and what it brings us.

Different cultures, religions and spiritual thoughts of all times agree on the importance of knowing how to love oneself so that later that love can go out from one to others. Our world is hungry for love; however, many times we do not understand how to obtain and how to live love.

In the search, we long to receive from others the love that is needed, and it becomes confusing to look for what is not understood, instead, sometimes we are willing to accept suffering and pain, it is possible to feel that we have made a mistake and that love is not always good, or that there is no luck in life. love.

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The importance of self love

You cannot give what you do not have and it is not feasible to perceive or transmit love if we do not understand what love is.

And so... How do we learn to love ourselves if we have not felt loved or our concept of love is wrong?

There are people who confuse self-love with selfishness, but in reality, if love is the protagonist, selfishness would be the antagonist. Within love there is no ego.

Selfishness always seeks self-interest, self-love is feel an inner fullness that inspires to share what one has, all the more so if that which is counted on is not material or physical; that becomes something even higher than the physical. By sharing that experience with others we are not left with less, on the contrary, that sharing gives us growth as a human being.

So, if a person did not receive love... Is there a way that she can have self-esteem and feel loved?

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building self love

No matter what circumstances you have experienced, love is a force that is always at our disposal, as the sun is for our world.

How do we learn to love ourselves? Here are some tips to promote self-love:

• Learn to accept yourself as you are, without judgment, without treating yourself unfairly. Without disqualifying you.
• feel empathy towards your person. Understand that as human beings we are imperfect and that we can make mistakes.
• Learn to forgive those people who hurt you, don't hold grudges.
• Try to see something salvageable in challenging situations. Possibly you will tell me: "There are situations that are not good at all." It is true, however, you can do something kind, even in the most difficult circumstances, as Gandhi did, Martin Luther King, Teresa of Calcutta, Malala Yousafzai, to name a few.
• Feel entitled to deserve the best, not just the material. Go for what you crave so much in your Personal development, not just what responds to the social mirror. Trust that you are capable of achieving what you dream and desire.
• Take care of your mind: work on modifying the thoughts that are not for building or those that you feel are causing you harm and if possible, release them.
• Take care of your body: eat healthy, do a physical activity that you enjoy, get enough sleep.
• Feed your spirit, with thoughts of peace and well-being.
• Learn to receive, learn to give.
• Enjoy yourself, be your best company even before sharing your time. If you don't enjoy yourself, you will hardly enjoy sharing your life with someone for long.

Sharing the experience with the couple

If you long to have a partner with whom to share, enjoy every stage of your life, including the time of solitude, and live that time to meet you and discover what you really want and expect.

Y If you have a partner but you don't feel fulfillment, review the previous points, practice them, live them, and think about the changes you can make. When we change, our circumstances change and even the people around us. Love transforms!

Not only this February 14. It can be always. It is possible to celebrate love. The love of your life, the love of others, the love in essence.

If you want to know more about self-love, I invite you to contact me.