You become what you think most of the time

Regardless of whether what you think about is something you want or if it is something you don't want, when you think about it you open the door to it. And you do it with more intensity the greater the emotional charge with which you think about it.

For example, let's say you want to earn more money; then you can think that you don't have money, that you never had it, how difficult it is to get it, how long you've been wanting it without obtaining results, in everything you have tried, without making great progress... And while you do this you feel sad, frustrated, angry.

Emotions are radiofrequency waves that emit a message, it's as if you were telling the universe: I want more of what I'm feeling. And the universe always responds.

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A practical exercise: the “would be great” exercise

Practice this: think or even say out loud, phrases that start with “that would be great”. I invite you to practice it right now: choose a topic that you would like better and say sentences related to it that start with “it would be great”

For example:

• It would be great to be able to earn more money,
• It would be great to have a better standard of living
• It would be great to learn new things with which to obtain sources of income
• It would be great to be able to save
• It would be great to learn how to manage my money
• It would be great to meet a financial mentor
• It would be great to attend courses and seminars on financial intelligence
• It would be great to meet inspiring people to grow financially with

Do you see what happens? Do you notice how your emotional state has grown towards a happier one? At least a little. That's what it's about.

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You become what you think most of the time

So be very careful what you're thinking, and even more, take care of how you are feeling.

And if you're not feeling good, then your job is just to feel a little better, not good, but a little better.

It is impossible to go from feeling angry to feeling happy, but it is possible to go from feeling angry to feel indifferent, from there to feel slightly optimistic and thus go on to a slightly better.

So if you want your reality to improve, pay attention to what you think, focus on what you want, not on what you don't want, nor on the absence of what you want.

Tools that help keep you focused on what you want

These two resources can help you a lot.

1. a display box

It is a place on the wall, on a corkboard or anywhere you see often, where you put photos of what you you want, it can be things (a car, a house, new clothes) or maybe attract new friends, a new job etc. To give it more power, place photos in which you appear with what you want: If it's a car, go to the dealer and take photos with it, touch it, feel your dream. The same if it is a house.

The visualization box will give you long-term vision. Of course you can change it to your liking as your preferences change or as you achieve your dreams.

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2. A card with the next step

This card must have the next concrete steps towards your vision written on it.. It can be signing up for a new activity to meet people, finding a good coach or therapist to help me, choosing a good training to learn something new, get a new job, save a certain amount of money… It is something tangible and realistic, that can be achieved in the next few weeks or at most one or two months. This will give you concreteness and “ground” your dreams.

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Concluding…

So look at your visualization chart and next step card often. Put a note on your phone, carry the card in your pocket, put your vision board in various places (or at least a photo).

Be consistent and be patientDo the right things for as long as it takes. Don't expect to do it one day, or once in a while, and get results.

Make taking care of what you think and what you feel into a habit that you do every day. And enjoy the process.