A possibility to be happier: communion with your body

Have you ever become aware of how your dog looks at you? He does not judge your volume, your height, your skin color, your curls or the straightness of your hair, your wrinkles, belly, cellulite or any other aspect that you observe and that you consider sometimes wrong or inappropriate, or that you have even searched for hide.

Most of us are taught from childhood that the body is less than the spirit, less than the mind or that other qualities of being; however, it is with the body that we live in this reality.

On the other hand, they promote the idea that the body should look perfect, and this type of message leads us to disconnect with our bodies, to the demand for diets and exercises, surgeries or treatments to achieve how it is "supposed" to look like it should see.

In the end, we discover that all these efforts are not the key to happiness, and that on the contrary, encourage criticism and personal rejection, causing disconnection, low self-esteem and to a great extent, states of anxiety that can trigger more serious disorders such as depression, or eating disorders such as

bulimia and the anorexy; Not to mention, of course, all the physiological effects of chemical changes in the body caused by stress, anxiety, or depression.

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Your cells listen to what you say

Has it worked for you to judge your body to change it? No, and yet it is one of the cruelest strategies we do without realizing that the body, as a whole of cells, is listening all the time to what we think, what we say and how we relate to our environment ambient. The trial promotes states of anxiety by the fantasy of wanting to look within standards that can rarely be met.

Dr Bruce H. Lipton, in his book The biology of beliefs, tells us that the body has the ability to take all the information from what we say and project it on your organs and systems, creating inflammation or some other symptom that asks us to pay attention. The body screams what the soul shuts up, we usually say in psychotherapy, because the body expresses us with pain and other symptoms, some aspect that is not we have been able to attend before in another way, it is their way of calling our attention to stop a habit and manage the latent need in a way different.

When we get sick, we understand this more clearly. But what need to go to these extremes to be able to stop and create a different relationship with our body, when what creates the most health is when we can have kindness and gentleness with the.

Your body is energy, expressed in each of its cells, and it has a lot of important information to share with you that would allow you to enjoy having it and enjoy living through it, all of life's experiences, but how much do you give yourself the opportunity to hear it? How much are you aware of how you talk to him, what you say in your conversations, how you relate to him and to life?

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Practical tools to commune with your body

In the book the joy of your body, Dr. Dain Heer tells us that consciousness is all-inclusive, without judgment; namely, the good, the bad, the beautiful, the ugly, everything.

In general, we like to look at and include only what we consider to be good, beautiful, perfect, correct, successful and exclude or reject the opposite. But our bodies love us unconditionally. Yes, you read that right, they love us unconditionally. They work in spite of us, they breathe, they beat, they manage many functions without you having to exercise great actions beyond feeding it, giving it water, allowing waste and giving it rest, well and sex, as one of the sources of pleasure.

Your body, like that of animals, is connected to the nature of the planet, and from its instincts, it survives each day, manages life, releases everything it does not need, takes advantage of everything that comes and takes what nourishes and beautifies it.

Some tips that Dr. Dain proposes to us have to do with reliving the joy of being in this world with our bodies, enjoying the incarnation. Let's see what they consist of.

1. Do what nourishes our bodies from fun, recognition and appreciation for what they are and give us

It is important to be able to enter into this communion with your body, to give yourself time to touch yourself, to recognize yourself, to speak with the body and listen to how your presence is perceived when you look at yourself without judgment, when you touch yourself with gratitude and appreciation.

2. stop judging yourself

The judgment has never been able to change anything, instead ask it questions to recognize what information it gives you about how to change anything that happens with your body. A question that is used a lot in the Access Consciousness tools is: What is required here for this to change? What is required for it to manifest? What will it take to look this way?

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3. You were created to live having pleasure

What if the sole purpose of life was to have pleasure? We have been taught exactly the opposite, to have a life full of effort, complication, trauma and drama, but you have wondered if the purpose of life was to be happy and live in the joy of being incarnated, how would you live, what would you choose differently. Recognize everything that gives your body pleasure from each of your senses: food, a sunset, listening to music, petting your pet, walking, the list can be endless.

4. make questions

Everything you experience in this life, what you eat, what you wear, what you do has to do with your body, but very few people or almost no one, take into account the body to know if your body is comfortable with the choices you are making about food, clothing, what you do, exercise, etc. Ask the body how you want to dress, how you want to move, what you want to eat, how much you want to eat, etc. it is a way to create ease and communion with your body.

5. Be aware of who owns that

We are more perceptive than we realize and than we would like to admit; however, we have the ability to perceive the pain, discomfort, feelings, sensations and thoughts of other PEOPLE. HeartMath Institute already tells us that from the sensitive dendrites of the heart, we capture more information from the environment in seconds and we have a know, a reaction and we can somehow blend in with our environment, aligning ourselves to emotions like anger in less than what you give yourself bill.

Asking the question “who does this belong to?” and awareness if lightness or heaviness arises will give you the awareness of whether it is yours or someone else's. What is light for you is true, what is heavy is a lie, ask the question the next time you have a pain and perceive without judging the knowledge that your body gives you, then become aware again if the symptom change.

Our bodies have a lot to say, it is up to us to recover awareness of what they are trying to share with us. Opening ourselves to this other possibility of having a relationship of common union between the body and the being that you are, is a way to recover self-esteem, to value yourself, to build inner confidence and to create a much more pleasant life.

I invite you to practice these tools and discover what impact they create in your life, in your relationship with yourself and with others.