Nothing more ostentatious than false modesty

how many times do we know that someone is not humble and yet shows himself to be the most simple, austere, docile, reserved and loving of the world? We see it, a sixth sense tells us that it is not so, but we cannot put it into words. It would be something like the "wolf in sheep's clothing".

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The thousand faces of false modesty

It could be, for example, a thieving lawyer in a divorce process, who uses extortion as a tool, who doesn't mind stealing children's childhood, leaving them emotionally in "limbo", getting them off a plane and ruining their vacations, or taking them to a court, place totally unknown and oblivious to their reality, in order to get them out of their schools, a place of protection and security, with the simple purpose of bothering their mother and their daily logistics. These "gentlemen" go to mass on Sundays. Could it be that they visit churches to ask for forgiveness there for their immoralities?

It seems to me that they are not even capable of registering their own immorality. Register it and make a mea culpa, I would leave them even smaller than they are. Great men make life easy for you, while small and unhappy men complicate it for you.

A falsely modest person could also be a person who wears old clothes and "espadrilles" of shoes, but hides million-dollar coffers, evades taxes, and economically and sexually abuses his most close. He doesn't even care about harming his children financially and even worse, mentally. Likewise, they go to mass on Sundays, to self-assure their reputation of being seen by others as "tank water" and assert their “nobility”.

These characters are created by themselves, to be seen by others as they "would like to be", but could never be. They are condemned for life to the enormous weight, boredom and weariness of holding up their image., and, at times, they believe that nobody notices. They are admired by five crazy cats who consider them "royal" but have not yet experienced them firsthand.

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What is modesty?

Falsely modest people often greet each other with a hug and pat on the back, or give each other a strong handshake, because that's more macho. In this way, they convince and ratify each other how "good people" and how "right" they are. This is, to my taste, ostentation. It's false modesty, on top of his game. And as my title says, there is nothing more ostentatious than false modesty.

modesty is like modesty, and it has more to do with a question of image than a way of being. Modesty has to do with measure, moderation, control, submission to the rules, is a way of being in the world, while humility has to do with knowing one's limitations and weaknesses, accepting them, and acting from this knowledge.

Let's also talk about kindness

Gentleness, on the other hand, is a delight; it has to do with a disposition, and is considered by many to be an exquisite trait of the human being. Many times the gentiles are considered naive.

He appears in the human being as a virtue, far from evil, but not so close to good either. It has to do with the ability to have empathy with the thoughts and feelings of the other, with the discreet art of listening, with the ability to welcome the other, to accept the vulnerability of the other and, of course, one's own.

The Gentile is often seen as a child trapped in a large body., incapable of seeing the bad intentions in the other, always willing to accept the other and do good, no matter how twisted the intentions or words directed at him. He is always docile and is at the service of the other.

Etymologically, the gentile is "the naive", "the well-born", from a noble family and carries in its genes a innate tendency to dignity, to liberality, to an elegant demeanor, to the simplicity and purity of his thoughts.

There is a discreet gentleness, which can only be seen through gestures and minimal attention that make relationships between human beings more loving and fluid.

the gentle is the one who always takes the first step to establish a contact, is the one that facilitates a meeting, the one that approaches. He is also totally disinterested, he does not expect to receive anything other than a "thank you".

I believe that kindness is the great support for humanity to continue to exist. What would we do in a world without kindness?