The 6 emoticons we least like to feel

In this article I would like to talk about the emotions, and more in detail, of the six emotions we least like to feel: shame, sadness, fear, anger, jealousy and blame.

The importance of knowing the emotions that one feels

When I am in front of a patient, I try to convey to him the importance that he has know yourself not only through what you think, and through how you act with yourself and with others, but also through what you feel. The emotional area is sometimes a forgotten area in many self-help books, and yet it is essential for change to occur.

Knowing our emotions means that we know how to detect when we feel them, that we can name them ("This I feel is sadness"), that we notice them bodily ("I notice it in the chest area"), and that we can regulate how we want them to go outside (Cry, talk, write about her...).

The six emotions that make us feel the worst

Almost all patients agree that the emotions they least like to feel are the following:

Shame

This emotion is accompanied by a internal self-criticism

: "What nonsense I say", "They're going to think I'm...", "they will laugh at me"… Shame often occurs in people with greater insecurity, less self-confidence and a low self-esteem. It is an emotion that causes a blockage in relationships with others, and therefore essential to work in therapy.

I recommend this post so that you know the critic that you have inside: "Why do I hate myself? Causes and solutions"

Sadness

Although you don't like to feel it, sadness may be one of the easiest to detect. It can create doubts as to whether we are feeling it too intensely or not, and it can be believed that you are falling into a depression, when what happens is that a normal period of it is passing. It is essential to make this distinction between sadness and depression. "I constantly want to cry", "I don't feel like doing anything", “I only see the negative”…

Fear

Appears whenWe feel that there may be a real or imagined danger. If it is real, the fear is adaptive, if it is an imaginary danger, that fear can become a slavery. "And if such a thing happens...", "And if I don't get this...", "And if…".

To delve into this emotion, you can consult: "What is fear for?"

Anger

Of all the emotions that I am going to talk about, this is the one that can produce the most ambivalence, in the sense that there are people who can tolerate anger, what happens is that sometimes they don't handle it in an adaptive way. Either they silence it or it comes out uncontrollably, in the form of anger (shouting, insulting...). Anger is important in order to be able to set limits, to express what I disagree with or do not like or hurt me about the other person, as long as it is respecting the other. "I don't like this about your behavior, it annoys me that you tell me...".

About anger, I can suggest a couple of articles that can help manage it:

• "How to control anger: 7 practical tips"

• "Emotional control techniques: 10 effective strategies"

Jealousy

When they appear they are given in front of a third person. That person is considered a rival and if the expression of jealousy is not handled, It can become a feeling of wanting to "dominate" or "possess" the other person. She tends to create estrangement and is destructive in relationships. "He loves you more than me, he pays more attention to you than me...".

Blame

It would be the "Jiminy Cricket" that we all have inside us and that appears when we have harmed another person. "It's your fault", "you should have done it differently"…

After having gone through all the emotions, What would you say is the emoticon you least like to feel?, and what do you usually do with it?