Fidelity at your fingertips

One of the topics in greatest demand in the consultation is fidelity in the couple, and the lack of it.

Many people consider the unfaithful person as someone who betrays, who is with another person, who creates another relationship (parallel "official"), which triggers sadness, discomfort, discomfort, suffering and in many cases in the breakup of the couple, and in others, in maintaining the relationship despite the grief and distrust, since they may have the feeling of "not being able to be without that couple".

Affective fidelity and sexual fidelity

To continue, I think it's important that we clarify the term fidelity. This refers to the fact that a person is logical, honest and, above all, horizontal and consistent with what he professes, be these affections, ideas, responsibilities and so on.

Therefore, under this line, it could be said that infidelity is the rupture of what he professes, since the person cannot remain or sustain what he said he would do, which generates pain, loss of hope, inconsolation in the other person and the big question of both why I did it?

In this article I will refer specifically to sexual fidelity, since it is the one with the greatest possibility of prevention, since affective fidelity, once broken, the chances of rebuilding it are less (since it is no longer just proximity, coitality, desire, or eroticism, but the affections, feelings are linked, making the person's chemistry want to spend more time with that person, and not like sexual infidelity, in which once the sexual act has been performed, everyone returns to their daily lives without "apparently" affecting their "stable" relationship. "formal").

For many women, understanding that a large number of men can have sex without affection being given is makes it difficult for them to understand, because they think and feel that having coital sexual relations with another person must imply keen; but in most cases, for men, sexual infidelity is a matter of chance, because many times the relationship is once or twice and then it disappears, it does not generate a bond or affection with this person.

The chance of a sexual relationship in men may have a lot to do with testosterone, which generates the motivation to it; but this does not make this desire unbridled, for the prefrontal lobe it helps to control, manage and manage it, so it does not become something genetic or deterministic: "it is testosterone that leads me to infidelity" or "it is that I am a man, I have needs". Men are able to control and manage this sexual desire unless there are other abnormalities in the brain.

Masturbation and its role in sexual fidelity

Many men, despite having the answer in their hands to avoid all sexual infidelity, due to gender issues, the construction of that masculinity, they feel that masturbation is something that should not be practiced, because at a "certain age", it is no longer a good thing, "it should not be done anymore", because it would be a symbol, or a sample, of the little capacity that the man has to conquer and seduce, added to the fact that it is built on the fact that masturbating is "not the same" as having coital sexual relations.

Masturbation as an experience can have a satisfactory effect on the person, since it can allow a full development in the acquisition and comprehension of their body schema, in particular of parts not habitually used in their everyday life Also can help prevent sexual infidelityWell, autoeroticism, continuing to explore her body, without guilt, without fear, without prejudice, will allow her to continue learning to enjoy and when being with your partner, to be able to practice it and achieve greater pleasure and satisfaction sexual.

Continuing to demonize masturbation makes men build prejudices about it and end up seeking at any cost, and without measuring the consequences, a coital relationship with a woman, because she will have in her head, the justification that "I am a man" "I need a woman" and of course in some cases other men, because they do not It is the affection, the affection that unites you with the other person, but perhaps it is only the desire to penetrate and feel that you can still have erections and ejaculate. Then it doesn't even matter with whom or how (whether by conquest, by payment, by rape, whether it's a woman or a man) "you must have a coital sexual relationship."

Masturbation is an intimate relationship and loving with oneself where touch, smells, sounds, etc. intervene, fantasy plays a very important role, so practicing it should not lead to ideas that make it a harmful practice, or that something wrong is being done and perverse. All these ideas are part of the social repression that exists against this practice, since it is even suggested that a person who masturbates will no longer want to have intercourse with other people, or it can become "sexually ill" who only wants to do that. The truth is that autoeroticism helps to know oneself more as a sexual person and to experience fantasies. without harming another person or himself and above all, without putting the relationship of a couple at risk. has.

Masturbating can relieve stress, sexual tension, function as a form of safe intercourse or non-penetrative intercourse to reduce the risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections or unwanted pregnancies, provide sexual pleasure to people who do not have a partner, including older people, enable higher levels of marital and sexual satisfaction, and provide treatment for the sexual dysfunction, and above all protect a relationship in which by x or z factor you cannot have sexual relations for a certain time. Taking care of your relationship is always at your fingertips. It all depends on how faithful, responsible and committed you are to your relationship.