Psychotherapists: immediate healers?

One of the conflicts that many psychotherapists run into is the immediacy and promptness with which people seek to solve their problems.

In general, when clients attend a consultation, they say phrases such as: "I need you to help me...", "tell me what I have to do so that...", "how can I feel better now"... It is as if the emotional problems that bring them to the consultation were decayed or damaged teeth for extraction; the client attends the consultation, asks that one of her damaged teeth be removed or covered and believes that this is enough, then he returns to his daily life, once again leaving aside the care of him and the others teeth.

Currently people live in a whirlwind of haste and quick remedies, which makes them no longer want to spend long hours of psychotherapy in the office, and the most striking thing is the difficulty making decisions, taking control of their lives, identifying that they are being manipulated, recognizing that their relationship is not what they expect and perhaps even deciding finish it.

It is like not wanting to assume the responsibilities that having a free, autonomous and happy life implies., which can be as they want, achieving learning to continue doing things in the same way or to change the way of doing them and that they come out different, which brings them closer to well-being.

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In psychotherapy, immediate solutions do not exist

Patients/clients arrive at the office with the idea that they will stay more or less 45 minutes or an hour, and after this they will leave completely healthy and happy, since they can perceive or Consider that if the therapist talks to you, he tells you something and ready, as if by "magic" or as if he were a "magical healer" of emotions, the problems that brought you to trouble are solved. consultation. Without considering the importance of their behavior, to take responsibility for their improvement. But without her commitment, the desired improvement will not be possible.

The client becomes the relevant point of the therapeutic process, since the therapist will not live the life of the client, but the person himself, For this reason, it is vital that you take control of your life, initially with the support of the psychotherapist, and then have one hundred percent control of your life. life.

These beliefs that the psychotherapist will help you or solve your problems is also part of a larger problem, since Some psychotherapists try to give the image of magicians, of "almighty" those who can solve everything, from depression, anxiety, personality disorders, violence, evaluations forensics, vocational guidance, bullying and more, which intersects with indistinct attention to children, youth and Adults; then people create beliefs that everyone can do this, which becomes a delusion.

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What does psychological therapy offer?

Generally, each psychotherapist has a specialty or some areas of expertise, but not all, and it is definitely not he or she who solves the problems. difficulties that people have, on the contrary, they are only experts in questions, experts in Socratic dialogues, in promoting changes and promoting flexibility of the person's thinking, allowing a better social functioning, according to the demands of the environment so that the person feels, full and satisfied.

It is important that psychotherapists first understand the role they play at the time of a consultation, which is based on their training and expertise, which allows them to motivate the client/patient to take co-responsibility for their psychological treatment, since from implementing his knowledge, learning, experience, approaches... he will give everything he has as a professional; and the second will put the predisposition to improve, to be as he would like, to implement and develop the activities, actions that are indicate, and demonstrate that by performing them he will have more strategies for conflict resolution, coping, and will achieve what led him to consultation can be handled, controlled and managed in the best way, so you will be able to face it, as well as other difficulties that may appear...

It is the responsibility of psychotherapists not to sell magic, not offering immediate mental health or that it is he or she who solves the problems of the clients/patients, but rather showing that it is a job of co-responsibility. That there is no magic, but that there are therapeutic approaches, tools, learning, that will be developed throughout each session, in which the client/patient will be able to recover their capacity. of achievement, of reaching and looking for what you want, that you will feel more confident in what you do, based on the indications, reflections and activities that your psychotherapist will suggest in each session.

It must be understood that psychotherapy is a treatment that is carried out through a certain psychological approach, which the client is informed about. It is a systematized and planned application, and that the techniques that are being applied do not appear out of nowhere, but that occur within the framework of the approach that is applied and what is proposed in the therapeutic process as objectives therapeutic.

All this is done in order to achieve functioning and emotional stability and social of the person and that can adapt to the environment in an adequate way, generating stability. Hence the importance of the client's active participation to achieve the social functioning that he desires.

Definitely...

To conclude, it is recognized that the psychotherapist is not a magician, who guesses the discomfort of his clients/patients, but rather the opposite; based on his theoretical-practical training, he seeks to understand the factors that worry and unbalance the client/patient individually and that allow you to design an individualized intervention strategy.

Psychotherapy is not a copy and paste, but rather the development of all therapeutic skills, within the framework of the approach that is decided apply to attend to the individuality of each client, through psychological tools in order to achieve their improvement in the area of ​​health mental.