6 things we do when no one is watching

Does our personality change when we are alone? The simple fact that no one is looking at us may not influence us enough to turn us into another person, but the truth is that privacy changes us.

Not only does it make us adopt very different types of habits from those we do in the company of someone, but that even makes us react radically differently when exposing ourselves to certain types of situations.

What do you do when nobody sees you?

So… What are these actions that define our way of behaving when no one is looking at us? These are some of them.

1. Click on distasteful posts

Videos and publications about festering wounds, corpses or parasites that inhabit the cavities of the human body have been circulating on Facebook for some time now. It is virile content precisely because there is a massive amount of people who click on this content, yes, when no one else is looking. And well, malicious computer programs that take over user accounts help too.

But... What is it that makes us feel attracted to this type of content despite finding it repulsive? The answer could be in the way in which they put us on alert and pay attention to what is happening. As it happens in the 

Horror Movies, the combination between a sense of control (these are images and videos before which we can divert our look) and excitement makes us want to experience the intense sensation of seeing something extraordinary. It is a small dose of strong emotions that we can savor from the sofa at home.

2. Flow

Within what is known as positive psychology, one of the best-known researchers is Mihály Csíkszentmihályi, who for years has been making his perspective known about a phenomenon called flow state. This is a state in which the maximum concentration is combined with an experimentation of intense well-being and a personal involvement in what we are doing. The flow state can be described as a state similar to the trance state that occurs when the difficulty of what we are doing and the satisfaction of this task are in an almost perfect.

In most people, the flow state does not occur very frequently, and yet it is easier for it to appear alone or when it feels like no one is watching, since that allows us to stop worrying about the image we give and our attention can be fully focused on the task at hand.

3. Sing in the shower)

A classic. Who has not ever sung in the shower? And yet, there seems to be no logic behind this behavior.

Well, actually there is.

Showers usually take place in a room where we are alone and can relax without thinking about what we are doing. In addition, the possibility of adjusting the temperature of the water and massaging the skin makes us relax, which in turn leads us to produce more dopamine, a substance that in many contexts puts us in a good mood and leads us to "free ourselves" and Be more creative. From there, the rest is just connecting the dots: we're alone, with constant sound masking our voice and walls so insulated that all sounds bounce off them; and, furthermore, our hands are busy, but our mouths are not.

4. feel ashamed

Although it's been years since Social psychology It was considered that shame is a phenomenon that appears when we are accompanied, today it is known that it is normal for it to appear with great intensity even when no one is looking. The reason for this is that, when comparing our actual actions with our model of "ideal self", the inconsistencies that we perceive are not experienced in a cold and dispassionate way, but rather automatically produce an emotional imprint.

5. View adult videos

At the moment, more or less 12% of the websites that exist on the Internet are related to pornography. They are visited monthly by about 72 million users, mostly young men, although a third of the visits to these sites it is done by women. There is no doubt that with the widespread use of the network of networks, this type of content has become an everyday occurrence for many people.

6. Not taking control of the situation

There are situations in which we feel that no one notices our presence despite being accompanied. For example, when a few meters from where we are there is someone who needs help and there are many people who, due to their proximity, could offer help.

What happens then is known as bystander effect: as the number of people nearby increases, the chances of someone intervening decrease.