The Question and Patience: method and symptom

As psychoanalysts, we basically have two tools: questions and patience. I have approached in the last time with unusual frequency reasons for consultation linked to the theme of jealousy: either from the remorse of feeling them or from the suffering of bonding with a person with jealous attitudes.

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Identification to the symptom

The last Lacan maintained that the most real thing is the symptom and that the symptom-jouissance is the means of satisfying the drive.. The drive plot of those who feel jealousy enjoys repeating itself and surrounding the object, and insists with the character of a resistance that is difficult to break. The symptomatology of the jealous is, in this case, the incessant return to the position of contempt, to the comparative stake of the value that this person has for someone as opposed to a thirdness.

It is worth saying that all kinds of jealousy hide behind a screen a false illusion of possession. But it stands out that it is false not because of the underestimation of an eminently harmful behavior, but because of the fictitious claim to seize the intangible. One suffers not only from the possible fact that the libidinal object does not reciprocate all the love granted, but also from the same fact of suffering from jealousy and not being able to avoid it: people who are jealous, suffer from jealousy and cannot deal with it themselves. In short, a shuttering of the Other's desire is executed to make one's own desire prevail.

The peculiarity of feeling a victorious income, the "suffering" of a deception, has sometimes been presented (under the terms of the agreement agreed upon in the couple) since he granted the subject in the position of the patient a "credit" that he collected little by little.

Ghost

The phantasm protects the subject from the horror before the encounter with the real, affirmed Lacan, and in any case the dynamics of the celante allows deploy a barrier to not recognize or not see the real signifier of not being for the other what one anticipates in his own expectation.

When the analysand is the victim of this jealousy, the analyst's concern must focus on not a normalization of the control dynamics is implemented and that the person does not succumb to the reduction yoica. It goes without saying that if we see any of these situations escalate towards the level of violence and cancellation of the other supervision must be immediate and the work must be incurred towards the plan interventional-direct.

Going back to the indirect-intervention, we must never coerce libidinous detachment, but if the analysand is a victim of the situation we must head towards breaking the control cycle. My particular dynamic has led me very rarely to intervene in ways that are not a question. The tool of the question directs the mind towards the multiple possibilities that the analysand would enjoy by modifying the scenario in which he finds himself.

If the analysand is an executor, the analyst's ear must be more refined than ever to capture small snippets of discourse that give us the cloth from which to cut.. The thread of the analysand will lead towards reducing the severity of the issue. Our role should never be persecutory or repressive (repression always fails). The question must lead the subject from his position towards the shoes of the subject of desire, until he sees him realize what he may be causing.

In line with this, Freud expresses himself in Beyond the Pleasure Principle, about the reasons for resistance: "They are at first unconscious in the cure (as experience teaches us), this warns us that we have to save a mistake of our terminology. We eliminate this darkness by setting in opposition, not the conscious and the unconscious, but the coherent self and the repressed [...] It is probable that it cannot be externalized before the work requesting the cure has loosened the repression".

Haste for analysts emerges as a tempting tool, but it will take the form of our worst enemy. Countdown for an analysand can take up to several sessions. The roundup must be constant and persistent; the question, our tool par excellence; patience, our flag.