“Negative” Emotions: what are they and how to manage them?

Emotions have an impact on our immediate environment, but also on our body, which has been studied not only by psychology, but also by medicine. Emotions are defined in different ways according to different theoretical currents. Emotions are defined in different ways according to different theoretical currents.

In general, We can say that an emotion is an experience of the human being that allows him to respond to the world around him., but it is not a simple experience, it is multidimensional and involves adaptive, social and motivational functions.

Emotions are multidimensional because they involve cognitive, expressive, and physiological response systems. For this reason, emotions are perceived as a complex moment of perception and action. The cognitive system has a subjective component act, the expressive capacity depends on the different ways of being and acting, and the physiological component varies with the adaptation needs.

Do negative emotions exist?

As part of adaptation to the environment, emotions have different functions, for example, anger has the function of protecting, but also of destroying; Fear necessarily leads to protection and tends to paralyze, while anger is more active; Sadness, for its part, is complex because it seeks integration but frequently generates isolation.

However, If we see emotion in its social relational function, they are not only responses to the environment, but they allow others to generate responses and predict attitudes.. Joy or serenity promote bonds, while anger or sadness tend to break them. The inhibition or expression of emotions influences others and the environment that surrounds us. In a direct way, this influence can be harmful or healthy depending on how it is expressed and drive.

Emotions also depend on motivation and are used to generate motivation or inhibition, as is the case of advertising and its great capacity to make us connect with our emotions and use them in favor of the consumption. In work relationships, it is common for emotions to support the construction of the goals of a group or an organization. collective, or that in social movements, emotions create mobilizations that can even be massive.

Generally, we become aware of our emotions when we perceive them negatively, but whether positive or negative, they affect the development of different areas of life. Complex emotions such as anxiety, for example, cause the different response systems to go into discordance and can also vary in intensity..

Already in the last century, Wundt indicated that emotions move along axes and can be seen in the movements between: excitement-calm, pleasure-displeasure, tension-relaxation. We will have an emotion located in one or more of these axes.

How to manage both positive and negative emotions

What to do about emotions? I want to tell you that, from a systemic perspective, the negative emotions of abandonment, lack of love, devaluation, lack of protection, mistake or pain are part of your system and not part of your personality. Therefore, they are needs whose objective is to promote your evolution and that of your environment.

Any emotion shows us our condition as humanity; So, just as happens with moments of joy, Negative emotions are not designed to last, we must prevent them from remaining longer than necessary in our lives or in the lives of our loved ones..

Generally, the emotions that overwhelm us come from childhood experiences or even from the womb. In those moments, emotions overwhelm children and we store them as complex repertoires of responses to our environment, which are difficult to resolve and recognize. The emotions that surpass us are there to show us how to transform ourselves and it is necessary to create movements to make them parts of us.

It is essential to work on them because there we will find our greatest strength. After serious work with ourselves, we will be able to recognize the persistence of love and life in those negative emotions. What can we do about negative emotions? We only need our intention and the appropriate movements. Based on Berth Hellinger we can promote the movements that lead us to flow with love and which are the following:

• Always include: when you exclude, you or the other members of the system feel uncomfortable and uncomfortable; the collective soul is calm, if we all belong and are included. We exclude when what is difficult is not part of us.

• Maintain balance between taking and receiving: therein lies the most important key to the dynamics of social life. The exchange between the taker and the giver creates movement and drives life. If you take more than what is due or if you are unable to receive or return, the system will enter into conflict and feelings of disagreement and injustice take over the members of the system. He who receives too much leaves, because he who gives too much puts himself in a place of authority.

• Occupy your own place: Priority must be given to those who arrive first and are before us. We will all be serene if we assume "our place" in the order of arrival and in the hierarchy of the system. Each person must occupy their corresponding place according to the order of their arrival in any space or on this planet. With this, life can continue on its path.

• Nod to life as it is and be grateful: surrendering to things as they are and how they happened is to be in tune with something greater. In the present we are and we act, we are life, we choose to be in life; This way we are in tune with life and its flow, we can show authentic gratitude. Now that you know, all that is needed is recognition of your unique experience, making the right moves, and your intention.