This is what it says about you to keep in touch with your ex

Relationships open worlds within our lives. They are experiences with which we grow, and we develop facets of ourselves that we did not have before living that experience.

Things can go well and move on with that person with whom we feel happy, or it may be that things go wrong for whatever reason and the relationship ends. In that case, what reading can be made of staying in contact with your ex-partner once everything is over between you?

Some studies have drawn conclusions about this fact that give a lot to think about.

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An evolving friendship relationship?

There are those who have ended their relationship once, they do not regain contact with that person; It may be because the ending was too hard and complicated to see yourself in the mood to go back to dealing with someone who lived through an episode in life that is better to forget.

The distance factor also encourages those who chose to go their separate ways to continue their lives without meeting in their day-to-day lives and thus avoid remaining in contact with their ex-partner.

But also there are people who manage to maintain a cordial relationship with their ex-partner despite the fact that everything is over, whether they have rebuilt their lives with another new partner or not.

Of course, it must be borne in mind that the minimum period of time that is recommended to wait to be able to meet an ex again after the breakup (and to be able to see him as such) are two months, during which the ideal is that there has not been any type of contact either in person or through social networks or by telephone.

Now, among those who consider that resuming the friendship relationship with your ex is a sign of maturity and a natural way to evolve the bond between those two people, to tell them not to generalize or fool themselves. The statistics indicate other types of reasons to continue in contact with your ex-partner.

What is the real reason to keep in touch with an ex?

According to recently published studies, approximately 40% of the people surveyed continued to having a relationship with at least one of his exes, where in some cases the contact was maintained in a very frequent.

However, was not indicative of having gotten over the break, since a high percentage of those interviewed who continued in contact with their ex-partner despite having started a new relationship, he contemplated having his ex as plan B in case things did not go well with the current.

Seeking contact with your ex talks about your current relationship

Interestingly, the most repeated reasons for maintaining contact with their ex-partner among the participants in this study, as we have said before, on the one hand was have the possibility of resuming the relationship again with that person and, on the other hand, to maintain a cordiality with those who are part of the same circle of friends.

Now, in what way did the current relationship influence the desire to remain in contact with the ex-partner? Did it have something to do with it? Well yes, quite a lot.

When the current relationship was satisfactory for the person, they only maintained cordiality with their ex by not damaging the union of the group of common friends, while those who did not get that things with their new partner were smooth sailing, they kept hoping to return with the previous one and that is why they were approaching again her.

Concluding

It would be neither fair nor rigorous to generalize about the reasons behind those who decide to stay in contact with their ex-partner; there are as many different cases as there are people, and in all circumstances there is a sum of factors that determines whether things are one way or another.

There will be people who have really managed to find balance in their life, where it is compatible keep a good friendship with your ex at the same time that his current relationship is strong enough not to affect that fact in the least. But they are a minority.

What is deduced from this study is that the most common thing is that, who wishes to continue in contact with her ex-partner, harbors the hope of resume the relationship you had with her because with her current one she is not so happy.

Therefore, the saying could well apply; "Where there was fire, there are embers"

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