How to love yourself? 6 tips for self-love

Happiness and true love begin with self-love, or at least that's what we hear around us. What happens is that when we unconditionally love ourselves we are able to give ourselves true well-being, we make better choices about the situations or people in our environment and we accept nothing less than what we we deserve.

However, when we get down to homework many times we have no idea how to love yourself, where to start, what to do differently, to tell us, but if I love myself! Here we will leave you some tips to start on the path of self-knowledge and unconditional love for ourselves.

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What does that mean about self-love?

So that you can understand it better, think about the way you love your partner; the attention you give him, how you do everything to give him well-being, the time you dedicate to him, how understanding and compassionate you are and how you accept and love him in spite of everything.

This is what loving yourself is all about,

be able to love ourselves unconditionally and accept ourselves for who we are. Everything in your life improves when you love yourself because by loving yourself you know how to love others. Otherwise, our relationships turn into other things than love.

When we are able to love ourselves we are able to see ourselves as we are, not to judge ourselves and to be honest with ourselves; we are able to see what we like and what we do not like, what we need and give ourselves well-being; when we love ourselves we are able to put ourselves first, but make no mistake, this does not make you a selfish person as some would say; when we love each other we stop criticizing and pretending, since we do not need to be neither more nor less.

So how do you start loving yourself?

These are some ideas to start loving yourself that you can put into practice now, because self-love does not wait.

1. Make it up to you

A very nice way to start the journey of loving yourself is reconcile with who you are. Accept that we have mistreated ourselves and forgive ourselves for all the criticism, all the judgments, all the times that we wanted to be someone else or that we feel insufficient.

When you have made peace with yourself, you are starting from scratch. You are facing a new beginning in which you are your best friend and your ally, without more masks or pretensions. You will see that it feels like you have lifted a weight from your shoulders, you are free.

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2. Get to know you again

It is normal that among so many things that society wants us to be, publicity, the influence of others and the lack of recognition by ourselves have made us lose a little idea of ​​who we are. Well, getting to know yourself again is the way to learn to love yourself.

Think about the things you like, from the smallest to the largest; if you want you can make a list with the things you like and the things that make you happy. You may find that there are things that are no longer on the list because in reality they are not part of who you are but who you were expected to be. If necessary, you can also make a list of what you are not and what does not make you happy.

When you are confused or feel like your self-esteem is reeling, read your list again, it will bring you back.

3. Live with your feet on the ground

Now that you know yourself and you know what you like and what makes you happy, plan your life with real dreams and realistic, conscious and achievable goals; Forget those goals that ultimately aim to change who you are and that result in terrifying amounts of anxiety and frustration.

Live your present with optimism, walking your own path with your feet on the ground, do not generate false hopes or false goals. Think about who you are and where you are in a positive way and don't get anxious about what you supposedly haven't accomplished. Embrace your reality like that sometimes you don't like it, because that's where the great lessons come from.

4. Goodbye to masks

Loving yourself is presenting yourself to the world as you are. It's true that the world can be scary at times, but it's even scarier to lock yourself inside a mask (as well as unfair to the magnificent person that you are). When you show yourself as you are, you shine!

Allow yourself to know the world as it is, and for others to see yourself being you and no one else. This is also a form of unconditional love of its own..

5. Listen to yourself and respect yourself

No one else can know so clearly what you need more than you. Your body, your emotions, your mind, everything speaks to you constantly. Do not turn off that voice, accept with love what you want, what you need and what you feel. Respect the time you give yourself, respect your dreams and your aspirations, respect your body and respect your space.

6. Be compassionate

The best way to love yourself is to be compassionate. Compassion is the feeling that leads to unconditional love. When you are compassionate with yourself, the insults, judgments, blame, hatred or contempt stop because you understand your pain, your sadness or your suffering.

By being compassionate to yourself you are able to see that you have done everything possible and then, what we see as a mistake does not end in guilt or in a form of self-punishment because you do not judge yourself. Compassion is self-love that extends to others. It is unconditional love.

Now that you know where to start to love yourself, you are about to discover the best of everything: you. So let's all go for self-love.