What are the qualities that women value most in a man?

Qualities are positive characteristics of something; be it a person, an object, a situation... In the field of interpersonal relationships, we know that there are qualities that tend to arouse more interest than others, or even "sought", sometimes unconsciously, in others.

In the case of women, there are certain qualities that we pay more attention to when deciding if we want to continue meeting a man. In this article we talk about some of them, specifically 11.

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The 11 qualities most valued in a man, by women

It is a reality that there is certain traits of people that we consider most positive or attractive than others. That is why we call these traits qualities, which are intrinsically positive characteristics.

Although each person values ​​some qualities or others in others, there are certain traits that are usually valued as such in a generic way. Specifically, what about women?

What are the qualities that women value most in a man? We are going to see some of the most outstanding ones below.

1. Sincerity

Sincerity is a highly valued trait, and not only by women, but also by men. This involves not lying to each other and being able to explain the things that happen to you on the inside frankly. Through sincerity you can build a solid relationship with people, and you can get carried away. Thus, sincerity promotes other positive values ​​for the relationship, such as respect and trust.

2. Independence

Independence is another quality that women value in men. This independence it can be of different types: personal and economic. Personal independence means not depending on others to get things done, having your own plots in life that you like to enjoy alone (or with people other than your partner), being able to do activities alone, not needing the “consent” or approval of others, etc.

Financial independence means being able to live and support yourself independently through your own money. It is a necessary requirement to be able to lead a healthy and free life.

3. Humor

Another quality highly valued by women, and probably the one that most for many, It is the fact that man knows how to make us laugh; that is, the sense of humor. This involves being a joke, being ironic, creating a relaxed atmosphere... which can be very useful especially in the initial moments of meeting someone (to break the ice).

Creating moments of fun will surely increase the likelihood that the other person will want to continue to know you or stay with you. What's more, when we laugh we secrete endorphins, the so-called "happiness hormones", which makes us like being with a fun and happy person more than with a serious person (generally, although there are always exceptions).

4. I respect

Respect is another quality highly valued by women. This respect, that he must be mutual, includes the fact of speaking to the other with consideration, of behaving with the other person in a respectful way, without offending him, etc. That is, it implies a pleasant treatment, without raising your voice, but also without lying, being honest, etc. Relationships where respect is the protagonist are more likely to be more solid and lasting.

5. Flexibility

Flexibility is another quality valued by women; this implies be able to adapt to variations in context (or their circumstances), as well as understanding the opinions or ideas of others. In addition, flexibility allows you to approach things from different points of view, avoiding being rigid with a fixed opinion, etc.

Being with a rigid person, on the other hand, usually brings us discussions, since the other is unable to modulate his opinion or to adapt to new circumstances, which is usually a problem.

6. Safety

Self-confidence is a highly valued quality, and that is why meeting someone who is confident in his way of relating, whether spoken or not, is interesting and attracts us.

This confidence when speaking and relating, we unconsciously associate it with people who are clear about things in life and that they can provide us with some security as well (although sometimes being sure of oneself and having things clear do not go hand in hand, we tend to unconsciously relate the two ideas).

7. Optimism

An optimistic man attracts, arouses interest, since it gives us a feeling of positivity and can help us to approach problems from another point of view, also valuing the positive aspects of it.

Positive emotions are said to, to some extent, attract more positive emotions, and in turn, these emotions attract positive thoughts. Being next to someone optimistic, who is able to appreciate the good side of things, can infect us with that optimism as well, and we value that as a positive quality.

8. Transparency

Related to the first quality mentioned (sincerity), we find transparency or authenticity. Transparency, in addition to implying the fact of being sincere, connotes a trait of naturalness and authenticity, which lead the other person to show themselves "as is", without too many "ornaments" or conventions. Thus, a person who transmits naturalness is attractive to us, since she seems closer to us.

Instead, when we are with men it shows that they are "facade", who overact or do not get carried away because they are too concerned with pleasing, that causes us some rejection to keep moving forward, often unconsciously, since we associate it with insincerity or with artificiality.

9. Listens

Listening is another highly valued quality in interpersonal relationships. Being with someone who knows how to listen when we speak, even if it sounds very simple, not easy to find, and it is not so obvious to everyone.

We are talking about real listening, of active listening, which translates into being interested in what the other person has, asking questions related to that topic, knowing how to respect silences, etc. This listening helps to feel accompanied and can be a powerful source of intimacy and trust.

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10. Initiative

The initiative, related to personal safety, translates into propose to do things, schedule plans, act without the need for others to tell you to do it, etc. This initiative or undertaking is valued as something positive, also related to personal independence. We like to be proposed to do new things.

11. Delivery

Especially if we are talking about couple relationships or relationships that are just beginning but are "getting on track" towards a relationship, delivery from the other is a quality that is highly valued. This involves spending time with the other person, showing involvement, attention and consideration. But it also translates into a surrender in other areas, such as the sexual area; We value this as something positive within a relationship.

Bibliographic references

• Garcia, M. (1996). Communication and interpersonal relationships. Pedagogical trends, 2: 2-17.

• Morales, J.F. (2007). Social psychology. Publisher: S.A. McGraw-Hill / Interamericana from Spain.